Oh No, Not Another Interuption, How To Deal With Everyday Distractions

Every day I find junk mail waiting for me, whether it is snail mail or email. Unless I deal with it immediately, I will be faced with piles of unwanted paper, or a full inbox, which just distracts me. It can be very frustrating trying to find something which is buried in a drawer or hidden under a pile of papers. Not only is this distracting but it also takes time and can lead to added stress. Every time you look at a pile of untidy papers you may just notice yourself sighing and notice, too, how your energy is diverted into feeling guilty about one more task not yet done.

Clear away the clutter - anything that will distract you, anything that takes up space, either physically or mentally. Examples include:

an untidy desk or car
a pile of unpaid bills
a disorganised wardrobe
unwanted gifts

What takes away your time and energy? Examples include: chatting on the phone or round the coffee machine friends dropping round unannounced on a regular basis relationships not working searching for things that you can't remember where you left

Just as we put sunscreen on us to protect against the harmful rays of the sun, we sometimes need to protect ourselves from people, places and things. Prevention is better than cure! You can't stop other people from being negative or living their lives from one drama to another, but you can stop yourself from being sucked in by them.

Dawn had reached the point when all she wanted to do was hand her notice in at work. As she was so behind with her work, she logged on to her computer at home, after she had put her children to bed. So much for trying to combine motherhood with work - it just didn't seem to be working. During the day, her team continually interrupted her when she was about to start on her work, with questions she felt that they really ought to know the answer to. "Why can't they work it out for themselves?" she said.

She realised that she had fallen into the trap, as so many managers do, of sorting out the problems for her team without encouraging them to come up with their own answers first. She would ask them to leave it with her. And of course, that was a monkey off their backs and one more on to hers. No wonder she felt stressed most of the time at work.

So she did two things to combat the problem. She increased the number of one-to-ones with her staff, and used the time to talk through her team's workload and some of the issues they were facing. For the first time in a long time her team took responsibility for their own work. Second, instead of inviting them to leave problems with her, she either asked them to come back with their own ideas, e.g. a draft of a letter, or suggested that she would meet with them later in the day, by which time they had normally sorted things out for themselves.

Dawn recognised that her role as a team manager had not always been as clear as it might have been. She thought she was supporting them by doing their work for them. "I thought I was in control but nothing was further from the truth. I hadn't realised how much the regular interruptions and my poor time management contributed to stress." Her team, although shocked at first, started to thrive. They started to feel more confident in their own abilities to solve problems, and Dawn was always there when they needed support. She also seemed to be a lot less short tempered with them, which they appreciated.

In reducing interruptions from her team, Dawn was setting stronger personal boundaries.

You can choose how you react or respond to others. You may find yourself reacting in the moment then spending the next two days feeling awful that you snapped at someone. All that time you are occupied with these thoughts and you could be doing something about reducing the stress in your life. Think before you act even if it just for 30 seconds.

Emotions may get the better of you on occasion, if they do you can stop things from escalating and causing more stress.

Most of us find it is hard enough to change ourselves. It is even more difficult to change others. So if you find yourself stressed by the actions of others, change how you react, rather than expecting others to change.

As you change, watch others change around you!

Carolyn Matheson is a nationally recognized Coach, Speaker and Author of "Yes to Less Stress."

Carolyn is a Master Certified Coach, and works with executives and their teams across the world. She has pioneered an innovative approach to coaching, combining many years of high performance coaching with a holistic approach to work/life balance and has coached hundreds of leaders and their teams. Her experience as a presenter, both nationally and internationally, spans 20 years, with clients currently in Europe, Australia, the Middle and Far East, and the USA.

Her new book, Yes to Less Stress is available online at her website, http://www.areustressed.com

In The News:

This RSS feed URL is deprecated, please update. New URLs can be found in the footers at https://news.google.com/news

UChicago News

Students bring accessibility to forefront in organizing disability studies conference
UChicago News
A scholar of linguistic anthropology and the anthropology of disability, UChicago graduate student Sharon Seegers conducts research on sign language interpreters in Hanoi. Her work focuses on the ways interpreters are dependent on deaf people and what ...


Vox

Stacey Abrams's Georgia primary victory is the latest win for black political organizing
Vox
Black women are demanding that the progressive movement show us they respect our leadership and the power of our vote, by investing more in Black women running for office; and Black women-led organizing and institutions,” Melanie Campbell, president ...

and more »

WPXI Pittsburgh

Cassandra Gross' family, friends organizing search effort
WPXI Pittsburgh
A longtime friend of Cassandra Gross is spearheading a search for the missing Latrobe woman. He says they have about 150 people willing to search but they want state police to support their effort. While a family friend spent the day hanging “missing ...

and more »

LancasterOnline

Coupon Cutting Mom: Organizing is key to maximizing shopping deals
LancasterOnline
While you won't find a fresh coupon insert in your newspaper today, that doesn't mean the deals aren't out there. A slow coupon clipping week is a great chance to sort through and organize your coupons. So this is your friendly reminder to throw away ...


Journal & Courier

Whoa Nelly? Tippecanoe County officials and concert organizers negotiate security fee
Journal & Courier
Multiple attempts to reach Lafayette Theater, which has been organizing the event, were not successful. Inked Entertainment, another organizer, is in negotiation with the county officials and don't have an answer on the security fee, said Leon Edwards ...


Lifehacker

Moleskine's Productivity App Makes Organizing Easy and Fun
Lifehacker
For most of my life, I managed to stay relatively organized with nothing but my own memory, but I recently started using Apple's Reminders app to keep track of major work assignments and personal chores. It gets the job done, but it's not very exciting ...


BethesdaMagazine.com

Critics Organizing Against Regional Amazon Bids; Hogan Makes E-ZPass Devices Free
BethesdaMagazine.com
Critics begin organizing against area Amazon bids. Opponents of regional bids for Amazon's second headquarters—including some from Montgomery County—gathered at a church in Washington, D.C., on Tuesday night where they expressed their concern ...


YourErie

Officials begin organizing new area land bank to help fight blight
YourErie
Regional leaders are learning about how joining the Erie County Land Bank could impact their communities. Blight does not form overnight and the solution will not either, but regional leaders learning about the success stories of other communities and ...


ABC6OnYourSide.com

Johnstown women organizing self-defense classes as police investigated supermarket slasher
ABC6OnYourSide.com
Stephanie Lamp told Facebook followers she was organizing a self-defense class. “As a woman I think it's important to empower the women around you, most important to empower yourself. I think situations happen every day that could possibly change the ...

and more »

107.180.56.147 (press release) (blog)

How American ISIS Supporters are Organizing on Facebook (Multi-Video)
107.180.56.147 (press release) (blog)
Everitt Aaron Jameson had a plan. The 25-year-old tow truck driver was going to travel to the remote mountain region near home in Modesto, California and build bombs from PVC pipe, gunpowder and nails. Then, on Christmas Day 2017, he planned on ...

Google News

Organize Yourself Otherwise Your Work Could Kill You

We are in a society where people are applauded for... Read More

Overwhelmed? Try the Red Zone Tactic

Some people seem to be born organized. You probably remember... Read More

Basic Organizing Principles

So you've decided to get organized, but you just don't... Read More

Keep, Get Rid Of, Or Not Sure?

Cleaning out can seem overwhelming -- especially if it's been... Read More

10 Common Roadblocks to Getting Organized

1. All or nothing thinking/taking on too much." I'm going... Read More

Secrets to Eliminating Emotional Clutter

Are you plagued by clutter in your personal or professional... Read More

9 Simple Strategies for Home Organization

Home organization means being able to find your stuff when... Read More

Breathing Life Into Dead Spaces

"I don't have enough room!" -- this is a common... Read More

Tossing and Turning

"The real question is, why do you want it? What... Read More

10 Easy Tips for Digging Out Your Desk Today

Has your polished mahogany (or modular plastic) desk been buried... Read More

35 Santity Savers - Get More Productive

Use these 35 sanity savers this year to help you... Read More

Organizing for Today, Tomorrow and the Next Day

Getting organized is hard. If it weren't, we wouldn't put... Read More

Spring Cleaning

Spring is such a refreshing time- we are filled with... Read More

Organize (and Decorate) Your Home on a Budget with Baskets

What's an item that can help you organize every room... Read More

Family Management Tip #3: Getting Ready for the New School Year

Clothes. Check. School supplies. Check. No doubt you've got to... Read More

Mental Clutter- Is It Taking Over Your Life?

Chances are, most of you have a lot you need... Read More

Effective Closet Cleaning Tips - Let Go of More Than Skeletons

I know I have a problem when I have to... Read More

Creative Storage Solutions

When the things in your home start crowding in around... Read More

Clutter Campaign - Maintain Your Success

To want in one's heart to do a thing for... Read More

Addiction to Clutter

Clutter is a big problem for many people. At a... Read More

Oh No, Not Another Interuption, How To Deal With Everyday Distractions

Every day I find junk mail waiting for me, whether... Read More

Ten Signs That Your Life Is Cluttered

How do you know if you need to clean out?... Read More

What Clutter Clearing Can Do For You

You can get a pretty good idea of the benefits... Read More

Getting Organized - Getting Fit

In a speech entitled "Organized Living in a Disorganized World"... Read More

7 Little Things That You Can Do to Organize the Kids Rooms

1. Sink to their level. Get on your knees in... Read More