Tackle, Tackle

I don't know how people raise daughters because I have 2 sons. In my in-sanest moments, I have thought about having a daughter and have entertained thoughts about rushing into Toys'Rus straight to the Barbie doll section. My preoccupation with daughters is short-lived. Then I become sane all over again ? I must be out of my mind thinking about having another child! No way, it's totally, absolutely, positively, undoubtedly out of the question. I do love babies. Oh, how I do love them. Pinching cheeks is not one of my favorite things to do an infant but I sure do love the feel of their feathery skin that is layered with fine, fine hair. I can't resist touching their bums like a lunatic.

I am quite sure daughters are fun. Sometimes I watch other mothers fuss with their daughter's hair and I look at Joshua and Jared and think to myself, "You think daddy will still love them if I leave their hair long so that I can tie them in braids and put ribbons on them?" My sons are pretty pretty, if I do say so myself but I don't think they'd like me to dress them up as girls.

I tried.

Dressing my boys as girls Joshua already knows the difference between girls and boys ? after the countless number of times we've broached the topic, how could he NOT know??? The times when we laughed till we were rolling around in unabashed nakedness in the bathroom because he thought I dropped my penis? Classic case of sex education gone folly. Jared, in the meantime, kept lifting up the skirt to see where the pant is one time I dressed him up as a Cinderella. I guess, it's not going to work.

My confusion and problem on dealing with little girls started when I realized that I don't know how to buy pretty dresses and fancy head gears for girls. Mind you, although I DO have a critical eye out for fashion faults, I am not a very good dresser. I prefer the slip-on-and-go-and-don't-feel-like-I-am-wearing-anything-at-all types of clothes. If I had to insomuch as zip, button, snap-on, clasp or buckle anything, I'd feel like dressing was too much of an effort. Naturally, being the 'casual dresser' that I am (my family members refer to it as 'sloppy' but I object), I find myself in a mental maze whenever I have to buy gifts for girls. And in this month itself, there are two. One is for my 9-year-old cousin (being 32 this year, I have a pre-puberty cousin? Yes, I do. So, sue me) and another is for my niece, who's turning 3 this month.

Birthday present problem For my cousin, I was thinking about buying soft toys because it's hard to go wrong with soft toys. I mean, doesn't everybody adore soft toys anymore? But no, I decided against it. I went into the clothes department to get her some fairy costumes, a princess crown or glass slippers, whatever! But it occurred to me that I didn't know how to pick out female clothing at all. Then, I jogged myself into the stationery department, thinking of getting her a school bag. Boy, a school bag? How boring can I be? So, off I go again, into the books department this time. And I got her something that I don't know whether she will like or not ? but I am quite sure it's hard to go wrong with books. Furthermore, I know I would have loved to get books as a present if I was still 9-years-old. Granted the fact that I was a major bookworm at that time.

It's even worse for my 3-year-old niece ? I went from one department to another, shopping mall to shopping mall for days on end. Up till today, I come home empty-handed, wide-eyed and clueless. What in the world do you buy for a 3-year-old girl who already has everything she can ever wish for?

"Bah!" to girls.

Tackling Another thing that bothers me is that I tend to be a little?.erm?.adventurous and wild with my kids. They're boys, so, they naturally like to roughhouse a little and jump, hop, skip, run, hide, scare?.tackle each other. And being a good mom, that's precisely the kind of games that I play with them. I tackle them to the ground, wrestler-fashion, knocking my knuckles into their skull, digging my fingernails into their backs and sides, biting into the butts, pushing their heads into pillows?..

When my nieces come into the room and take one look at the kind of games that we're playing with each other, they have 2 different reactions. One, they gape at us. Two, they want to join us but is afraid to. I remember playing the roughhousing game with one of my nieces, throwing her up in the air the way I throw Jared. She went stiff like a baseball bat in the air and when I caught her back into my arms, she looked like she was going to barf! Her face was green and her lips suddenly had cracks on them.

I gingerly placed her back on the floor and she sped out of the room.

As for having a daughter, forget about it. I'll stick with my two monsters and continue with our snarling and growling activities until they decide that they want to play Barbie with their girlfriends. I will continue to enjoy my boys?.until next year rolls around.

Marsha Maung is a freelance graphic designer and copy writer who works from her home in Selangor, Malaysia. She loves nothing more than blowing bubbles in the park with her 2 kids, Joshua and Jared and considers getting her hair yanked while playing horsey. To her, it's a privilege she treasures. She is the author of "Raising little magicians", and the popular "The Lance in freelancing". More information can be found at http://www.marshamaung.com

In The News:


HuffPost

Bill Murray's Parenting Wisdom Is Spot On
HuffPost
The actor and comedian has six sons ― 35-year-old Homer, 32-year-old Luke, 24-year-old Cal, 21-year-old Jackson, 20-year-old Cooper and 16-year-old Lincoln. In honor of his birthday on Thursday, we've rounded up some of his best parenting tips and ...


HuffPost

Mom's Hilarious Saga Of A Forgotten Poster Board Sums Up Parenting
HuffPost
Pavlik posted the saga of the poster board on her Facebook page, under the heading “Parenting In A Nutshell.” Pavlik's daughter, 11-year-old Camille, had waited until 9 p.m. the previous night to tell her she needed the poster board for an art project ...

and more »

Refinery29

Why I Pulled Back From Natural Parenting
Refinery29
There's a baby shampoo ad circulating that, likely to the chagrin of essential oil distributors everywhere, implies that “safe” and “natural” aren't synonymous. “Natural might be the trend,” the ad reads, “but safe will always be our bar.” Five years ...


PEOPLE.com

Darnell Nicole's Blog: How I Handle Co-Parenting My Daughter with My Ex a Year After Our Split
PEOPLE.com
Please welcome our newest celebrity blogger, Darnell Nicole! The star of E!'s hit reality series WAGS: Miami, Darnell is a trained dancer, actor and creative writer who worked as a choreographer and playwright after college, appearing in commercials ...


U.S. News & World Report

What Parenting Can – and Cannot – Do
U.S. News & World Report
The dangers of abusive and neglectful parenting are now well-known. Children who don't experience unconditional love nor have their needs met on a consistent basis are likely to struggle with relationships. Such deprivation affects the development of ...


Lawrence Journal World

Author Maria Polonchek's reading in Lawrence to focus on parenting ...
Lawrence Journal World
Maria Polonchek did not have an answer when her young son asked her, “Is God everywhere?” “It's shocking how early kids start asking about things like that,” ...

and more »

Bradenton Herald

Family Partnership Center helps develop better parenting skills
Bradenton Herald
From the time a new baby comes home for the first time, parents often wish there was a how-to manual on how to manage all the challenges. For some at-risk families below the poverty line, the challenge can lead to neglect – or worse. That's where The ...


RVA Parenting: Diaper Drive Awareness Week
WWBT NBC12 News
Anyone with a baby in his or her life knows you're going to need a lot of diapers. The cost of all those diapers can add up quickly. For some families, it's a crippling cost, which is why the governor is stepping up with local organizations to try to ...


HuffPost

21 Hilarious Parenting Quotes From Jimmy Fallon
HuffPost
Jimmy Fallon has a few years of parenting experience under his belt and quite a lot of funny things to say about it. The “Tonight Show” show host and his wife, Nancy Juvonen, have two daughters ― 4-year-old Winnie and 2-year-old Franny. In honor of ...

and more »

New York Post

Epic parenting fail ends in panic, gunshots | New York Post
New York Post
An Ohio dad decided to dress like a creepy clown and scare his daughter into behaving — because he can't discipline the child as himself since the...

and more »
Google News

Home For The Holidays: Ask Yourself Some Questions

Annie easily slipped into becoming the sole caregiver of her... Read More

The Giving Jar

Giving with a happy heart. If you teach a child... Read More

Old-Fashioned Ways to Inspire Children

"Walk through any toy store and you will see walls... Read More

What Julia Roberts has to Say about Motherhood

Julia Roberts recently gave birth to twins: Hazel and Phinnaeus.... Read More

Study Skills - Help Young People Study Smarter, Not Harder

Many young people don't know how to study efficiently and... Read More

8 Tips To Save On Child Care Costs

Child care costs are are one of the most expensive... Read More

How to Parent Your Teen Effectively

Maintain CommunicationEven though teens need to separate from their parents... Read More

Finding A Caregiver You Can Trust

Choosing to leave your child with a caregiver is one... Read More

Working Moms: Too Busy for Your Children?

17 Quick Ways to Strengthen the Bonds of LoveOn Mother's... Read More

When Everybody Does It Comes Back to Haunt You

Parental example, whether for good or for bad, is undoubtedly... Read More

Awesome Dads Top Ten Communication Intentions

An Awesome Dad in by no means perfect. But that... Read More

How to Talk to Your Kids About Suicide: New Study Says it May Make Them Less Likely to Consider It!

This year alone, 1,600 teenagers aged 15 to 19 will... Read More

Are You Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child?

Although many parents are concerned with our children's intelligence quotient... Read More

Discipline on My Mind

I look out of the window as I am writing... Read More

Pieces of Time and Pivotal Moments

Life is comprised of pieces of time sprinkled with pivotal... Read More

Punishing the Victim -- Why Public Schools Pressure Parents To Give Their Kids Mind-Altering Drugs

Public-school teaching is structured in such a way that it... Read More

How Can I Teach My Child Respect?

A common theme over the past 20 years has been... Read More

Breastfeeding, Its My Right

My name is Duncan and I'm 2 years old. I... Read More

Bath Time Fun

Bath time can be fun or it can be a... Read More

Parenting Your Teenager: 6 Tips for Effective Discipline and Consequences

A parent writes in, ``We are having a hard time... Read More

Childhood Obesity & Parents Healthy Food Confusion

Many parents struggle to know which foods are healthy for... Read More

Helping Your Child Cope With A Long-Term Illness

All children will likely have many different health problems during... Read More

Nail Biting Basics

Nail biting in all its various forms is problematic... Read More

Parenting - Give Your Child The Tools To Build Strong Character And Values

There are many parenting styles. Yours may be very different... Read More

The Family Guy - Parenting From a Single Dads Perspective

It was a hot summer day in august and The... Read More