Parenting Styles - Overcoming Your Differences > NetSparsh

Home
>
Parenting
>
Parenting Styles - Overcoming Your Differences

Parenting Styles - Overcoming Your Differences

If you spend any time in the parenting section of the library or your local bookstore, you will find hundreds of books on disciplining and raising your children. All the leading experts have their own ideas about what works and what doesn't. As a parent, you have your philosophy that you bring to the table. Most of your thoughts come from what you learned as a child. You either liked the way your parents raised you, agreed with some of it and disagreed with the rest, or didn't like any part of your parents' ideas. Then you talk to or watch other mothers you know and these ideas get added to the mix. You take the best from all these sources and you set off to be the best mom you can be.

And then something happens that interrupts your plan for raising your children. Dad has a whole other set of ideas and plans for raising his children. Most of the time, dad's ideas have not come from the many books on parenting he reads or the oodles of fathers he brainstorms with. His ideas, too, come from the way in which he was raised as a boy, but sometimes Dad operates on auto pilot when raising and disciplining his kids. Even the best and most agreeable parents sometimes disagree. So what do you do when your two philosophies clash?

1. Talk it out when the children are not around. You're in the middle of dinner, and the children are refusing to eat. They are crabby and testing your every nerve. Dad can see that you are stressed so he decides to take matters into his own hands. He yells with his loud, booming voice, "Eat your food right now or you will go straight to bed." The kids start crying. You are even angrier now because you can't stand yelling. You feel it is an ineffective way to discipline the children, and you believe it scares them. Wait until the children go to bed and have a talk with your husband. Explain to him exactly how you feel about yelling. Listen to his side of the story and why he chose to do what he did. Do your very best to understand him and acknowledge his feelings. Then decide together what would work better for everyone in the future.

2. Decide how important an issue is to you. My friend's husband takes his little girl to swimming lessons every Saturday morning. After swimming, the little girl is starving. Dad's way of ending their fun time together in the pool is to let his daughter pick something to eat from the vending machine. My friend does not want her daughter associating fun time with Dad and junk food. She believes they should come home so her daughter can eat something healthy. Sometimes each parent needs to decide how important an issue really is to them. If Dad rates his need to buy his daughter a junk food treat after swimming at an 8, and Mom rates her need for her daughter to eat healthy at a 6, then Dad wins. You learn to give in on issues that aren't extremely important to you.

3. Understand that differences can be good. Believe it or not, children can benefit from differences in our parenting styles. As long as children are being loved and treated with respect and fairness, it can be good for children to learn to adapt to different childrearing approaches. No two people in this world are exactly alike. Some parents are very flexible and some are quite structured. Some parents are playful and others are more serious. There are quiet and mild-mannered parents and loud and boisterous parents as well. Step back and appreciate your differences. Children who are exposed to diversity have a tendency to be better rounded and adaptable.

4. Combine your viewpoints and get on the same page. The single most important thing you can do for your children and for your marriage is to get on the same page when raising and disciplining your children. Being on the same page does not mean you necessarily agree on everything. It means you support one another as parents. If Mom says there are no privileges until homework is done, the rules are the same with Dad. If Dad says curfew is at 11:30 PM, then Mom enforces this curfew. Take the time to work through your differences and put together a plan that both of you can be happy with. Decide what the house rules are going to be and how the children will be disciplined when the rules are broken. Then stick together and provide a united front for the benefit of your children.

Lori Radun, certified life coach for moms. Get her FREE monthly ezine for moms who want healthier and happier lives at http://www.true2youlifecoaching.com.

In The News:

Dr. Elaine Heffner: Make-believe parenting Brownwood BulletinA nurse in a maternity hospital once told me that the way to have three good kids is to have six and throw the first three away. It is unlikely that any parent would ...

South Carolina's free-range parenting bill explores at what age can kids be on their own Greenville NewsA so-called "free-range parenting" bill has sparked debate among South Carolina senators about when children are old enough to be left home alone.

Khloe Kardashian annoyed by parenting critics EWNKhloe Kardashian finds it annoying how she is constantly being challenged on social media about her parenting skills, including her choice to have her nails ...

PARENTING: Staying calm so we can be an influence Sarasota Herald-TribuneOne of the primary roles of parenting is to influence our kids. We can't control them because every child is his or her own unique person, an individual separate ...

Can breast pumps increase the risk of asthma, obesity in babies? The Indian ExpressA breast pump is used to extract milk from the breasts, which is stored to feed the baby. A study suggested that indirect breastfeeding can expose babies to ...

Editorial: Smarter parenting Sun.StarIT IS a common sight nowadays to see kids as young as three years old playing on phones or tablets. Some parents would hand them the mobile phone or tablet ...

The Swedish Royal Family's Online Parenting Guide Should Be Required Reading RomperNavigating the online world can be stressful and confusing for adults — let alone children. Because let's face it: There are some highly questionable people and ...

Parenting in Manhattan is a Darwinian struggle The GuardianA slew of new books treats child-raising like another branch of economics that only the fittest will survive, says Guardian columnist Emma Brockes.

Role shifts: What happens when addiction results in grandparents parenting MinnPostSharon Olson had been a mother for decades and a grandmother for only a few years when she got a call that would change her life forever. “I was at work,” ...

How to overcome parenting isolation Sunshine Coast DailyReach out to others, says mum of terminally ill child.

Call for Australians to take an old-fashioned approach to parenting NEWS.com.auAustralian parents are being urged to take a step back from the pressures of modern parenting and adopt a simpler approach to raising children.

Parenting Advice on Enforcing Rules for Kids: Trying to Follow Them Yourself FatherlyA week of following my own rules for my children revealed that sometimes parent demands are arbitrary and unhelpful, but sometimes we need to follow them ...

Dancing in the rain: The joys and jolts of parenting Hindustan TimesChildren grow up and become individuals, but their essence remains the same.

Pregnancy and Parenting Expo comes to Limerick City for the first time I Love LimerickThe Limerick Strand Hotel will be buzzing come March 24 when the very first Pregnancy and Parenting Expo takes place. The event runs from 10 am to 4 pm.

Parenting advice people used to believe that you shouldn't listen to INSIDEREveryone has an opinion about the "right" way to be a parent. Some outdated pieces of parenting advice range from misinformed to dangerous.

Public Shaming: a Misguided Parenting Trend U.S. News & World ReportIt's in vogue in the digital age, and all wrong for our kids. Try these disciplinary approaches instead.

Stacey Solomon reveals she’s ‘given up’ on parenting as she shares pic of sons using THREE TV screens at same The SunThe Loose Women panellist took to the photo-sharing platform to document her boys Zachary, 10, and Leighton, six, relaxing on grey bean bags while they took ...

Play at the heart of happy parenting | Cape Times Independent OnlineUniversity of California-Riverside psychologists analysed three studies and determined that fathers experience more well-being ...

SC lawmakers consider "Free Range Parenting bill" WCBD News 2Mount Pleasant, SC (WCBD) - In South Carolina, Lawmakers are looking at a “Free Range Parenting Bill”. The legislation would change the current state laws ...

Kate Middleton's Honest Parenting Confession Is Refreshing To Hear From A Royal RomperKate Middleton is presumably a dab hand at parenting by now. After all, she has three children which is basically like being a pro-level parent in my opinion.

St. Luke's Jerome offers parenting classes KMVTThe program titled 'Love, Limits and Latitude' is an evidence-based plan for parenting. The mental health therapist who oversees the classes in Jerome, says its ...

33 Relatable Parenting Tweets From Molly Ringwald HuffPostThe Brat Packer and her husband, Panio Gianopoulos, have three children.

Fort Pierce Class in Fort Pierce teaches 'Secrets of Modern Parenting' WPTV.comKimberly Eardley heads up "Families of the Treasure Coast" and is behind a course called the "Secrets of Modern Parenting."

Kate Middleton Made This Surprisingly Relatable Parenting Confession The Cheat SheetKate Middleton shared a parenting confession during the recent Mental Health in Education conference.

Travis Scott's Parenting Approach With Stormi Shows He'll Always Put Her First — VIDEO BustleStormi Webster is totally daddy's little girl. And nothing makes that more evident than a recent report from Us Weekly about Travis Scott's relationship with baby ...

Anne Hathaway is following Prince William-Kate’s parenting trick. Here’s how it helps The Indian ExpressAnne Hathaway has started following the royal couple's practice of bending down to maintain eye contact with their children while speaking, she said in an ...

Parenting skills needs from the start | News, Sports, Jobs SalemNews.netNew babies are tiny, snuggable, huggable, sweet-smelling bundles that most everyone thinks are adorable. But they also make messy diapers, spit up all over ...

Making parenting a little easier The Herald ArgusMICHIGAN CITY — “We believe that parenting is not an easy job. Many parents have questions on what to expect and that's what we are here for.”

Parenting tips: How to ensure your child is not bullied Times NowAccording to a study conducted recently, it was found that children with multiple siblings are at a higher risk of being bullied in comparison to children with only ...

Parenting series offered by Roaring Fork Schools Glenwood Springs Post IndependentRoaring Fork Schools are planning to offer a free family education event in each community this spring on the topic of “positive parenting solutions and essential ...

The 8 Best Books on How to Raise Toddlers, According to Child-Development Experts New York MagazineThe best parenting books on raising toddlers, according to child development experts, including titles from Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, Dr. Laura Markham, ...

Katie Price sparks fierce parenting debate after uploading THIS controversial video of daughter Princess CelebsNowKatie Price has been defended by fans after a recent video of her daughter Princess has sparked a HUGE parenting debate online.

Prince Harry reading military parenting book to prepare for Baby Sussex New IdeaPrince Harry has reportedly taken to reading military-style parenting books to help him prepare for the imminent arrival of his first child with wife Meghan Markle.

Royal family release online parenting guide - details HELLO! MagazinePrince Carl Philip and Princess Sofia of Sweden have released an online parenting guide on internet safety this week. The royal couple - who are parents to ...

Whitman: Seventh Mom Project helps mothers share parenting-related struggles Tampa Bay TimesThe Tampa area non-profit is dedicated to helping women manage maternal mood disorders.

Hax: Resist the urge to be a parenting coach Minneapolis Star TribuneAdapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My husband and I got married and had kids relatively young, especially by his family's standards.

Homecoming: Parenting against the past Mountain DemocratAt times it's easy to forget there are 10 years between our daughter and youngest son, especially when our daughter was younger and the two of them had ...

Free parenting program for traumatized children WSLS 10A new parenting program is teaching guardians and children how to work together. New River Valley Community Services (NRVCS) is hosting the free, six-week ...

These genius hacks prove we're all just trying to survive parenting NBC NewsLike most new parents, Hillary Frank dove into parenting advice books after her daughter Sasha was born. “I was reading all these books about how to get her to ...

Vauxhall embraces messy reality of parenting in Crossland X campaign The DrumVauxhall has launched a new campaign poking fun at luxury SUV owners who are so proud of their fancy motors they won't let their kids drag dirt in.

Busting a few parenting myths Pune MirrorNow that I am in the fi fth year of parenting, I can say, with all the cocky self-assurance of an old warhorse, that I have managed to bust a few myths about th.

What free-range parenting is and how it could change the way SC children are supervised WBTW - Myrtle Beach and Florence SCA bill in the South Carolina senate would clarify state law saying that parents who let their kids go off on their own are not neglectful.

Living with Children: Parenting vs. childrearing Journal Gazette and Times-CourierThere is "parenting" and then there is bringing up, rearing or raising children. The difference is night and day; so are the outcomes, short- and long-term, to all ...

Hundreds of Anglo Israelis Attend Parenting Workshops http://hamodia.comHundreds of parents attended a series of parenting workshops with Rabbi Yakov Horowitz last week in Israel, in the Anglo communities of Modiin, Ramat Beit.

NRL Player vs. Parents: Is parenting harder than sport? Now To LoveIn a new experiment, NRL star Kalyn Ponga proves Aussie parents work harder in a day than a professional rugby league athlete does during a match.

5 Of The Most Effective Ways To Talk To Your Kids (So They Actually Listen) YourTangoLearning how to talk so kids will listen is one of the hardest pieces of parenting, which is why this advice on the 5 most effective communication skills for parents ...

Open Letter to Faculty of Color Parenting While On The Tenure-Track Diverse: Issues in Higher EducationWe are compelled to write this open letter to our fellow faculty of color colleagues who are navigating tenure-track while raising little humans. As graduate st.

Russell Brand accused of ‘sexist’ parenting style, after admitting his wife Laura ‘does all of it’ The IndependentRussell Brand has never spent 24 hours in sole charge of his children, the comedian revealed in a recent interview. His comments have prompted accusations ...

THE MOM SCENE: Is parenting getting easier? TheChronicleHerald.caMy friends and I were talking recently and, as usual, the conversation was 70 per cent about our children, 15 per cent about our husbands, 10 per cent about our ...

Russell Brand's 'inept' parenting is unacceptable and not at all cute USA TODAYThe "Forgetting Sarah Marshall" star said he feels "inept" when parenting. All parents do. But they also learn basic childcare skills. So should he.

How young is too young to be home alone? It should be up to parents, SC lawmakers say The StateSouth Carolina lawmakers removed a minimum age at which a child could be left on his or her own in a vehicle or at home under a proposed free-range ...

Kim, Khloe and Kylie have just copied Victoria Beckham's unusual parenting move Her.ieLike Victoria Beckham has done with her kids, Kim, Khloe and Kylie have all trademarked their children's names for use on products.

Rural Parenting: Just give me the darn book The Daily News OnlineIn the last month, I have been to the Virgin Islands, France, and now the state of Washington. I have hung out with magazine editors, famous arborists, ...

South Korean mums parent at resorts – while the kids learn English South China Morning PostOverseas programmes combining leisure time for mothers and studying English for children are big business especially since there is growing demand for ...

Russell Brand slammed over ‘sexist’ parenting views NEWS.com.auBut comedian Russell Brand has been slammed for revealing his “sexist” views on parenting. The former womaniser has admitted that his wife does just about ...

The exhaustion that comes with parenting is crippling at times, writes Jane Lundon RSVP Live"The doctor explained that the first thing she prescribes working mothers is a cleaner"

A Parenting and Life Skills Intervention for Teen Mothers: A Randomized Controlled Trial AAP NewsBACKGROUND: Teen mothers often present with depression, social complexity, and inadequate parenting skills. Many have rapid repeat pregnancy, which ...

David Brody | January is Positive Parenting Awareness Month Santa Cruz SentinelThe Santa Cruz County Board of Supervisors has declared January as Positive Parenting Awareness Month in Santa Cruz County for the seventh consecutive ...

When parents need parenting! East Coast RadioAfter witnessing a mother smoking in a car with her children in the back seat, Terence Pillay questions parental responsibilities. I recently witnessed quite a ...

Hillary Frank on how to embrace your unique parenting style—and find your mom wins Motherly Inc.We all have days where we feel like we've lost a parenting battle, but hopefully we have more days that could be described as parenting wins—the days when ...

Mombie, ginwag, threenager, niplash: How many of these modern parenting terms do you use? Nottinghamshire LiveThese are the top 20 new phrases used by mums and dads.

Prince William Gives New Dads Advice on Parenting ‘Fragile’ Infants: ‘It’s Very Daunting’ Us WeeklyPrince William shared parenting advice for new dads raising 'fragile' infants at a charity event on Thursday, February 14 — details.

Parenting is not the same as raising children; Here's why [Column] Reading EagleTo raise, rear or bring up a child is to lift said youngster out of childhood into genuine adulthood.

What Divorced Parents Need to Know About Co-Parenting After the Split FatherlyWhen divorced moms and dads commit to co-parenting a kid can thrive in what is essentially a new kind of family. But it's not an easy task by any stretch of the ...

Parenting vs. child rearing: Different as night & day Arkansas Democrat-GazetteThere is "parenting" and then there is bringing up, rearing, or raising children. The difference is night and day; so are the outcomes, short- and long-term, to all ...

“You’re much bigger than my friend...” The moment I realised parenting is one huge contest. MamamiaMilestones of development: Parenting just feels like one big contest. And a contest means that there has to be a loser. Baby milestones put on pressure.

Positive Parenting: How Babies Learn With Labels 9&10 NewsToday babies are teaching scientists. At 12 months, most babies know and understand about 50 words. Scientists are trying to figure out how their brains ...

Peaceful Parenting During the Teen Years | Collective | Events, Around Town North Bay BohemianWhen: Sat., Feb. 23, 2-6 p.m.. Phone: 707-591-1872. Email: [email protected] Price: $37-$57 www.TerriMoon.com/parent. Peaceful Parenting During the ...

A Parenting Intervention to Improve Positive Life Skills in Teen AAP NewsWe are familiar with the risk factors that can put the infant of a teenage mother at risk, including adverse social determinants of health or simply lacking parenting ...

PARENTING: Nurturing our kids with healthy soul food Sarasota Herald-TribuneOne of the most obvious jobs of parenting is to nurture our kids, and a major part of nurturing has to do with feeding them. Most of us understand that what we put ...

Real Housewives Give Their Best Parenting Advice to First-Time Dad Andy Cohen PEOPLE.comThe stars of the hit reality TV franchise are the ones guiding their Bravo boss now.

Cornell Researcher Finds Intensive Parenting Style Popular Across Socioeconomic Groups Cornell University The Cornell Daily SunAccording to Cornell researcher Patrick Ishizuka, intensive parenting has become a dominant parenting style across socioeconomic groups.

Beau Ryan opens up about parenting - 'It's my daughter and I versus the world' Now To LoveBeau Ryan is a former rugby league player, radio personality and a television show host, but his greatest role to date? Being a father of two - and he's getting ...

Anne Hathaway said she uses a helpful parenting tip she got from Kate Middleton Business Insider AustraliaAnne Hathway gave birth to her first child, son Jonathan, back in 2016 with husband Adam Shulman. Now, in an interview with The Sunday Times Style ...

How Having A Neurodivergent Child Has Changed My Outlook On Life Scary MommyI have a neurodivergent child, and I've learned what is truly important. I have learned to follow instead of lead. I have learned that it's not a competition.

Trying The Parenting Style Of The 1980s Versus Modern Parenting For Kids YourTangoThere are many different parenting styles. Some couples are helicopter parents, while others subscribe to old-school free range parenting. Here's what ...

20 Best Parenting Books - Top Resources for Raising Children WomansDay.comThere's no such thing as a perfect parent. Even the best moms and dads in the world need advice every now and then. Check out these great reads, which cover ...

Kate Gosselin Defends Her ‘Overzealous’ Protective Parenting: ‘It Comes From a Place of Love’ Us WeeklyKate Gosselin defended her 'overzealous' protective parenting style, explaining that 'it comes from a place of love' — details.

LIVING WITH CHILDREN: Parenting or child-rearing? The difference is like night and day GoDanRiver.comThere is “parenting” and then there is bringing up, rearing or raising children.

Peter Andre ignores Katie Price parenting controversy as he shares hilarious glimpse into family life with kids CelebsNowPeter Andre has shared a hilarious glimpse into his family life with Emily after ex Katie Price was accused of turning up hours late for parenting duties.

PARENTING: How to really eat the elephant this year Sarasota Herald-TribuneYou have probably heard the saying that you eat an elephant one bite at a time. It's an encouragement to break big goals down into small, doable steps.

Creating Effective Parenting Plans Mediate.comThis article discusses working with your children's developmental needs when creating a parenting plan.

"Free Range Parenting Bill" would change the state's child abuse and neglect laws WCBD News 2COLUMBIA, SC (WCBD) – A “Free Range Parenting Bill” is being introduced here in the Palmetto State.

Hecht: Parenting little piggies Asheville Citizen-TimesIf messiness is a sign of genius, as some studies say, then nearly every child I meet must be one.

Positive Parenting: Mindfulness in Schools WQAD MolineBefore students at this Baltimore city public school start reading and writing, they begin the day with time to reflect. Students lead a daily two-minute mindfulness ...

5 parenting tips from celebrity Bollywood couples The Express TribuneBeing a celebrity and devoted parent at the same time is tough. Multiple shoots lined up for the week, award ceremonies and meetings with film-makers can ...

Out with 'parenting,' in with child-rearing | Rosemond Reno Gazette JournalThere is “parenting” and then there is bringing up, rearing or raising children. The difference is night and day; so are the outcomes.

Here’s Why You’re Hyper Critical of Other People’s Parenting Thrive GlobalThe impulse to criticize the way others parent their little ones seems to have reached a fever pitch over the last decade. What's precipitated all this parent-hate?

Positive Parenting: Toddlers recognize the right way to win WQAD MolineResearchers found a majority of the toddlers liked the puppet who got his way when the other puppet bowed down to him. However, in the second scenario, the ...

Parenting Styles - Overcoming Your Differences

Parenting Parenting