Deprecated: mysql_connect(): The mysql extension is deprecated and will be removed in the future: use mysqli or PDO instead in /home/a26f9f83/public_html/articles/includes/config.php on line 159
Are You A Victim Of FABS? Part One > NetSparsh - Viral Content you Love & Share

Are You A Victim Of FABS? Part One

Have you heard of the FABS? The FABS are quadruplets; they are not identical but they are very, very similar! The FABS are: Fear, Anger, Blame and Shame. This quartet love to arrive, uninvited, at people's houses and literally stay forever. They will certainly stay as long as you allow them to; they never seem to get tired of hanging around and causing troubles for the unsuspecting host.

The FABS love to attach themselves to abused children, but they really lie in wait for anyone who is vulnerable. Children who have been abused learn early that the world is an unsafe place, and that they have no personal power with which to protect themselves. They internalize everything that is done to them, and believe everything that is said to them. This provides a fertile environment for the FABS to flourish in. And usually, all of the fear, anger, blame and shame is directed squarely at the self. The child feels at fault for everything that happens.

However, the FABS can move in on anyone at any time. When life becomes too stressful or hurtful, then it provides an opening for the FABS to move in. Whenever a person feels guilty for their actions then the side door opens and the FABS can sneak in.

FABS live in the dark. They tend to hide in the dark corners of our minds, avoiding the light of day at all costs. If the sun were to shine on the FABS then it is very likely that the host would take immediate steps to eliminate them. It is much easier to lurk in the subconscious and just spring out whenever the opportunity presents itself. Then the FABS kick in and keep the host from moving forward in their lives.

Some of the symptoms of FABS in your life are:

  • Feeling as if everything that happens is your "fault"

  • Constant apologizing

  • Feelings of depression and unworthiness

  • Getting stuck in bad relationships

  • Always being a "giver"

  • Surrounding yourself with "takers"

  • Being afraid of change

  • Never standing up for oneself

  • Being overweight

  • Back problems

      People infested with FABS are often overweight because they use food as a medication, unknowingly trying to eliminate the pain that FABS causes; or they use weight as protection against an uncertain and painful world. Excess weight can be a wonderful buffer, and can become as comforting as a favorite blanket. FABS sufferers often have back problems as well, because they consciously or unconsciously feel that they have no support in their lives. Lack of emotional support=back pain!

      Once FABS have moved into your life they are extremely hard to get rid of, but not impossible by any means! It takes work, dedication and a real desire to get them out of your life. You may need a good FABS exterminator, which can be a therapist or a personal coach. Getting rid of the FABS in your life is a very important step to take, no matter how difficult it may be. Once they are gone, you cannot imagine how good life will feel, how bright the sun shines and how far you can go on your path!

      About The Author

      Sibyl McLendon is 1/2 Navajo, and is a personal spiritual coach for Circle Of Grace http://www.circle-of-grace.com.

      Circle Of Grace is a unique blending of Native American spirituality and holistic wellness coaching. Sign up for a free coaching session!

      Sibyl can be contacted at [email protected]

      In The News:

      This RSS feed URL is deprecated, please update. New URLs can be found in the footers at https://news.google.com/news

      U.S. Soccer (press release) (blog)

      Positive Attitude Guides U-20 WNT GK Amanda McGlynn to World Cup Qualifying Roster
      U.S. Soccer (press release) (blog)
      Jitka Klimkova started to believe in Amanda McGlynn the first time she saw her. The goalkeeper made an immediate impression on the U.S. Under-20 Women's National Team head coach from her first Youth National Team call-ups with the U-18 WNT at the ...


      Longevity LIVE

      Finding The Magical Key To A Positive Attitude
      Longevity LIVE
      My game plan was simple: identify thought types and place them in two categories: positive or negative. I knew I must figure out the precise essence and make-up of a wholesome, beneficial thought. I decided that thoughts that were ingredients of the ...


      Anniston Star

      Positive attitude helps animal exhibitor cope with aftermath of house fire
      Anniston Star
      Brian Blazer and his baboon, "Kenya," are shown in front of the ruins of his home near Micaville, in southern Cleburne County. The dream house of many years' construction burned down Dec. 27. Bill Wilson, [email protected] · Facebook · Twitter ...


      Milwaukee Journal Sentinel

      Positive attitude helps Waterford's Jared Krattiger stay on top of his game
      Milwaukee Journal Sentinel
      The way Jared Krattiger sees it, disappointment doesn't have to be discouraging. Not even a little bit. The Waterford senior wrestler has experienced great highs in the sport, but there have been some tough moments, too. For the past three years he ...


      Siliconrepublic.com

      A positive attitude is a crucial element for GDPR compliance
      Siliconrepublic.com
      Egnyte is a major player in providing enterprise file services, with its platform allowing businesses to share files on-premises and in the cloud efficiently. Secure and smart file-sharing is only going to become more important once GDPR rolls around ...


      Cincinnati.com

      Reporter's notebook: Haitians live day to day with resilience
      Cincinnati.com
      Enquirer reporter Mark Curnutte wrote this personal reflection after covering the earthquake in Haiti in 2010. Vanderbilt University Press published his book, "A Promise in Haiti," in 2011. This column ran on The Enquirer's editorial page on March 21 ...


      TheChronicleHerald.ca

      Bridgetown Regional Community School seeing positive changes in attitude
      TheChronicleHerald.ca
      “It takes a village to raise a child.” — Igbo and Yoruba proverb. With the effect it is having on the children attending, it seems the new Bridgetown Regional Community School (BRCS) is becoming one of those villages. The Primary to Grade 12 school ...


      Times of India

      Positive attitude key to success, says Gaur Gopal Das
      Times of India
      NAGPUR: International life coach Swami Gaur Gopal Das from ISKCON said positive attitude towards simple things in life can bring about success to every man and woman. A large number of youths and people from every age group listened to Das as he ...

      and more »

      Community Advocate

      Marlborough artist channels positive attitude through his paintings
      Community Advocate
      Marlborough – Artist Derrick Maurice Sanderson's love for painting started many years ago as a child. He was always creative, he said, and when he reached the sixth grade, his enthusiasm for comic books consumed most of his time. “My teachers would ...


      Bryan-College Station Eagle

      Brenham officer David Webb remembered for faith, positive attitude, mentorship in school resource role
      Bryan-College Station Eagle
      Cpl. David Webb, a Brenham police officer who worked as the junior high school resource officer, was remembered Tuesday as a mentor to children who always maintained a positive attitude. The 55-year-old died Sunday in a Houston hospital after a battle ...

      and more »
      Google News

Mastering Mindfulness: A Thinkers Ode to Meditation

I'm lucky.When I was fifteen, I was the sole survivor... Read More

Changing Stumbling Blocks To Stepping Stones?

"The difference between a stumbling block and a stepping stone... Read More

How to Stay Motivated Despite Negative People

Getting motivated is sometimes easy enough to do, at least... Read More

Change and Transition - 10 Steps to Surviving Change Elegantly

If I say the word "CHANGE" how do you feel?... Read More

Penury Perpetuates Poverty

So...you might just believe I hide behind computers creating and... Read More

Affirmations for Success + Music = Pow!

Music penetrates our mental barriers and influences the deepest areas... Read More

Seeing Challenges as Opportunities

Are you a person who loves challenges, or hates them?... Read More

Fear Is Nothing To Be Afraid Of

Several years, I was listening to a radio talk show... Read More

Adding Meaning To Your Life

You got up today to go to work, to come... Read More

Positive Attitude is Not Enough

Contrary to the popular saying "attitude is everything" attittude is... Read More

Impact of Positive and Negative Catalysts on Events in Human Lives

Have you ever noticed what can happen if you just... Read More

Instant Frequency Boosters: 10 Fast and Simple Ways to Raise Your Vibration

When you're feeling "low," or out of the flow, it's... Read More

Feelings and Attitudes

Are feelings and attitudes the same thing or different? Does... Read More

Garbage Words In - Garbage Thinking Out

"At birth, a baby's brain contains 100 billion neurons, roughly... Read More

Creating Success Through Self-Affirming Thought Patterns

Everyone of us has the potential to successfully more through... Read More

Learning From Life

Do you ever find yourself thinking, "Life has taught me... Read More

Thanks For The Rejection!

It sounds a little masochistic, but I actually appreciate being... Read More

Do You Believe What You Think?

If you work toward what you dream, the dream can... Read More

Building Unshakeable Self Confidence!

One of things that Charismatic people share is an unshakeable... Read More

Life Can Seem Unfair Until We Change Our Perspective! See How!

Empty, Hollow, Nothing?.those words shout the sound of disappointment and... Read More

CHANGE: Do You Do It? or Does It Undo You?

It has been said that CHANGE is THE only constant.... Read More

Stop Complaining

You don't need to a piece of paper to prove... Read More

Thoughts are Things

You've probably heard this idea at one time or another.... Read More

Heal and Release the Past

I had a completely different idea for my main article... Read More

Beliefs

Do you realize that what we believe about ourselves, affects... Read More