![]() |
|
![]() |
|
![]() |
|
![]() |
"I'd like to find a partner who dances. Do you?" my profile on Match.com asked. My now-husband Drew emailed that he was willing to take lessons, and that was enough for me. Non-dancer Drew's courage to put himself out on the dance floor and to show in lesson after lesson his amateur status was truly impressive. We took private dance instruction for a year before our wedding, and as a result, got around the dance floor quite gracefully at our reception.
Women are dying to dance. Any man who can ask a woman to dance, then take charge of what happens on the floor and move relatively smoothly to music, has enormous appeal. Fat or skinny, short, tall, or not even close to attractive, even old, old, old, a man who is comfortable on the dance floor has his pick of the ladies.
For whatever the reason, dancing intoxicates. Especially women.
Few men can really dance, and those guys are on the floor constantly. Some men think they can dance and do get up, ask the ladies, and have fun. But at least half the men sit or stand uncomfortably on the sidelines with all the women who wish to be on the dance floor.
We women don't get to dance nearly as much as we'd like to, even the ladies who are good dancers. There aren't enough dancing men to go around. You can almost feel the yearning, the sadness, and the disappointment in those women and between those non-dancing couples. And the non-dancing guys? Pathetic.
I personally know three women close to my age who met their now - spouses on the dance floor, and those ladies were great catches! Gentlemen and ladies, there's a message here.
Guys:
1. Take lessons and learn how to dance. Leading well takes skill, but if Drew could learn how, so can you.
2. Go to dances.
3. Ask women to dance. Lots of women. They'll love it. Even if you aren't so good, they'll appreciate your efforts.
Dance lessons themselves are good places to meet women, and most dance studios have regular parties for their students to practice what they have learned.
Ladies:
1. Take dancing lessons yourself and learn how to follow. Here I was, 50 years old, thinking I loved to dance, and I had no idea how to do the woman's part! Following takes skill! You have to figure out what your partner has in mind for you to do in a split second, and then actually do it, all while dancing backwards.
2. Buy yourself some real ballroom dancing shoes, maybe with high heels. Believe it or not, those shoes are comfortable. They have to be. Not only do they look very sexy, they stay on your feet!
3. Hang out at dances, too, if you like to dance. Single guys go to dances.
If you are connected to a dance studio, other single women will be at their parties as well as the studio instructors and male students, so you will know people. Dance parties are safe and comfortable for single women.
Guys -- nothing enhances as man's romantic marketability more than becoming a decent dancer. Learning to dance is cost efficient and relatively painless. No surgery or blood loss, no sweaty hours at the gym, no personality makeovers needed. Just dance lessons.
What's stopping you? Look up the dance studio nearest you and make that call! You'll become a dancing babe magnet!
Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach / Helping Singles Find A Sweetheart!
eBk: "Find A Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women"
Purchase ebook at: http://www.cafeshops.com/findasweetheart
Tele
classes: "Find A Sweetheart Quick Start" & "Platinum Profiles"
Stay current with my complimentary enewsletter *eMAIL to eMATE*
Subscribe at http://find-a-sweetheart.com/newsletter.html
www.Find-A-Sweetheart.com / email: Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com
4870 Oak Ridge Road, Vicksburg, MS 39183 / Ph.601-619-0030
On Valentine's Day, or any romantic interlude, lovers should woo... Read More
I was reminded once again the other day about how... Read More
How are you feeling now?The answer to this question determines... Read More
I have been talking about manifestation for a long time.... Read More
Leadership is an innate ability in all of us. Using... Read More
Wouldn't it be great to know that you have something... Read More
Recognizing your gift of choice is liberating. This means acknowledging... Read More
If we all got everything we wanted, most of us... Read More
I remember a football game from last season when the... Read More
Maybe can be a great place. It's full of possibility,... Read More
Before you left school, did any of your teachers sit... Read More
We human beings naturally have two kinds of state that... Read More
Watch your thoughts; they become words.Watch your words; they become... Read More
I was accused recently of being unfocused. This lady challenged... Read More
An ideal is not the dream that can never be... Read More
What does one do when one is too old, too... Read More
When I was seven years old I wanted to be... Read More
It's been said that, "To attract attractive people, you must... Read More
If you find yourself in a difficult situation, don't continue... Read More
'Until you make peace with who you are, you'll never... Read More
A lot of your people problems and concerns about what... Read More
One of the great things about rapport is that it... Read More
Say the word 'intuition,' and some cringe. It sounds too... Read More
(Channelled)Roy? What value comes of a mechanic that fills his... Read More
Abundance isn't something you find from the outside. Abundance begins... Read More
â??The snow goose need not bathe to make its self... Read More
"Organisms do not experience environments, they create them." -- From... Read More
If you have ever traveled across country by train, you... Read More
Are you having a difficult time pinpointing what you want... Read More
October is hands down my favorite month. Every year l... Read More
Leadership is an innate ability in all of us. Using... Read More
Each person has her or his own place and purpose.... Read More
The Law of Attraction T-ToolTM is the single most useful... Read More
I've navigated plenty of speed bumps on life's road. My... Read More
Here is a non-scientific, but fun way to see which... Read More
Hello, Moon.There you hang, a thin white sliver that cradles... Read More
Rejection is one of the most painful experiences in relationships.... Read More
There's a big opportunity here! The holidays bring a change... Read More
Character or Reputation. When we see these two words together,... Read More
What was your energy level like today? Did you wake... Read More
In a society where interaction is part of everyday life,... Read More
The questions of life may call to you. You may... Read More
So, what is magic? Is it an illusion or is... Read More
Do you hear yourself saying? When I have enough money,... Read More
When our clients are exposed to our company, they are... Read More
How To Prove To Yourself That You Are Going After... Read More
Do you remember your younger years when you and your... Read More
Do you feel all alone and out of sorts on... Read More
This is a story about a woman we will call... Read More
To create true, lasting prosperity, almost any guru can tell... Read More
Attraction Attraction |