The Five Minute Relationship Miracle

"They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel." Carl W. Buechner

The Five-Minute Miracle works in any type of relationship - relatives, spouse, children, colleagues, friends - you name it. The premise is simple. Here's how it works:

1. Choose a relationship that you know needs some work.

2. For five minutes give that person your total attention.

What does that mean?

a. Listen only to them: ignore your own thoughts, don't worry about your response, just listen

b. See them as they are: don't project traits or qualities onto them, simply see them as they are right then

c. Make eye contact: use touch where appropriate, communicate with your body language remembering that ninety percent of communication is non-verbal.

Each and every day, use the five-minute miracle within one of your relationships. You may find it hard to be that focused (it's not easy) which is why we only do it for five minutes. I guarantee though that by doing this focused exercise you will learn A LOT about communication that will affect you outside of your designated "Five-Minute Miracle " times.

Your Assignment

Choose someone whom you want to improve your communications with and practice the Five-Minute Miracle.

Brook Noel is the author of The Change Your Life Challenge: A 70 Day Life Makeover Program for Women. Her unique program has helped thousands of women "makeover" all aspects of their lives. Learn more at http://www.changeyourlifechallenge.com

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