Coping with Your Difficulties in Yourself

Ashleigh Brillant once said"

"Coping with difficult people is always a problem, particularly if the difficult person happens to be yourself."

Can you identify with this statement? Often, when things are not going well, we wonder what the problem is. Often we are the problem. We become our own worst enemy.

Are you a perfectionist? This can deter you from finishing a project or a deadline. It may also keep you so anxious, you cannot really enjoy life.

Are you stubborn? More than likely your friends and co-workers will know. What lies behind stubbornness? Do you really want to stay this way?

Another way to describe someone who gets in their own way is to describe them as someone who shoots themselves in the foot. In other words, they somehow interfere with what they are trying to accomplish. If this describes you, you can make a choice to change.

Things you can do to help yourself:

Take time to slow down and relax.

Eat well and avoid excessive sugar.

Prioritize what needs to be done.

Find something to be grateful for.

Remember to smile.

Remember to pause and breathe slowly when you feel uptight.

Ask for help if you need it.

Assert a positive attitude.

And remember Rome was not built in a day. Changing your attitude and behavior will take time, but with practice, you can do it!.

Karlynn Baker received a Master of Science degee at the University of Arizona. She also specializes in addictions. She enjoys life with her husband David, and her two adorable grandchilden.

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