10 Red Flags In Dating Relationships

When starting a new relationship, many women (and men as well) tend to overlook some behaviors in their new partner that do not bode well for the future. Then, down the road, comes the exclamation 'If I had only known...'. As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women and a few men in the field of Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can always trace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to the very start of the relationship.

Here are some 'Red Flags' to watch out for in a new partner.

  • He makes decisions about where to go with little or no input from you.

  • He belittles your opinion when the two of you are alone and may call you names.

  • He makes disparaging remarks about you in front of others and may talk about you as if you were not there.

  • He may be rough during love-making and make you engage in acts you do not like.

  • He does not want to spend time with your friends or family and insists you socialize with his people.

  • He will not acknowledge your areas of expertise and may put down what you do in the workplace - ignore any of your accomplishments.

  • He may openly flirt with other women and then accuse you of being jealous when you object.

  • He gets angry and loses his temper over trivialities. Stays angry for a long time and attempts to blame all arguments on you.

  • May hit walls when angry.

  • One of the main factors is that he comes on very strong in the beginning of your relationship - sweeps you off your feet - and wants an exclusive relationship too quickly. Many women feel flattered at the intensity of the man's seeming need for an immediate connection and consequently overlook the inappropriateness of it.

    *This should not be confused with 'love at first sight' where one or both parties feel an instant connection - without any of the aforementioned behaviors.*

    There are many other factors that could be listed - but if the man in your life begins displaying the above qualities - realize it will not get better, only worse. He will likely be unwilling to discuss his emotions openly and feel that women are the inferior sex.

    If this describes your man, run - do not walk - out of his life. The next step will likely be physical abuse.

    About The Author

    Terri Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma) has been a Psychotherapist for over twenty years. She has owned and operated a brick and mortar dating service and has also helped abused women thru individual and group counseling to improve their self esteem, leave their abusive relationships and lead more fulfilling lives. Terri invites you to visit her popular personalized and informative 50+ dating community at http://www.spicy-senior-singles.com.

    [email protected]

    In The News:

    Relationships & Parenting  Millennium Post

  • What Is A Boundary In A Relationship?

    You might ask yourself, I have heard this word boundary,... Read More

    Emotional Investments

    It is a given truth that there are people out... Read More

    Noon (A Love Story)

    Noon (A Short Love story, dedicated to my wife Rosa)Marina,... Read More

    What Men Want From Women

    Actually, it's pretty simple. Deep inside the heart of every... Read More

    Why Its Important to Stay in Contact with Your Friends when Youre in a Relationship

    So often when we begin to enter into a new... Read More

    What Men Hate in Women

    Without wasting much time, here are some of the personality... Read More

    Legal Agreement to Cohabitate Between Unmarried Persons

    THIS AGREEMENT is made and entered into this Third day... Read More

    Is Your Soulmate an Idiot?

    Lately, I think people are investing too much energy in... Read More

    Diamond Alternatives ? There Are Some Great Options

    There is little doubt that diamonds are one of the... Read More

    The Evolution of Dating at 40 and 50

    I am sick of the dating scene at 40. The... Read More

    Spouse Improvement: Influence Your Partner to Change in Just 7 Steps

    Everyone has something they'd like to change in their partner.... Read More

    Cheating Husband/Wife: 6 Keys to Know if You are Ready to Handle What You Might Find When You Spy

    When you spy on your suspected cheating spouse, please make... Read More

    Great Relationships: 7 Secrets You Must Know to Make It

    1. CommitmentTrue commitment means much more than simply committing to... Read More

    Is There Romance In The Zodiac?

    Many people know that the zodiac is a circle in... Read More

    Friends and Friendship - Who are Friends, What is Friendship

    A friend loves at all times, and a brother is... Read More

    Affairs: Advice for the One Who Was Betrayed

    You are hurt, you are angry, you are simply devastated.Things... Read More

    Nip Verbal Abuse in the Bud

    So often in a new relationship we learn the dynamic... Read More

    Reading Body Language in Depth

    Body Language can tell you a lot about what is... Read More

    Q & A: Reuniting With a Lost Love

    >1. Who are the prime candidates to rekindle a romance?The... Read More

    Why He May Be Cheating On You

    Why He May Be Cheating On YouThere could be all... Read More

    How We Define Our Relationships?

    We can fall into the habit of complaining about our... Read More

    How Do I Get Him or Her To Talk To Me?!!!

    This is a common concern in our society for single... Read More

    Looking for a Lasting, Deeply Satisfying Relationship?

    "Life has taught us that love does not consist in... Read More

    Are You Paralysed By The Fear Of Future Regrets?

    Edith Piaf remains an icon and her best loved song,... Read More

    I Have A Secret to Share

    Dear Candace,I have been through a lot over the last... Read More