Holiday Fun for Singles

Are you dreading the holidays because you are single? For those who are alone, this can be a difficult season -- especially if you know what it is like to be in a relationship during this time of year. This can, however, be your best time of the year if you follow this plan:

1. Participate in Lots of Holiday Gatherings

Who knows? You may meet Mr. or Ms. Right at that next party. Or you may meet someone who knows someone who is right for you. And you will most certainly have fun, which makes for a good holiday season.

So how do you find these gatherings? Ask your friends, family, neighbors and co-workers about upcoming holiday events. Then see if you can join in on the fun!

2. Volunteer

Many people volunteer during the holidays, especially very good-hearted, loving people -- the kind of people with whom you want to be in a relationship! This is why volunteering is a great way to meet others while also making yourself feel good for contributing.

How do you find these opportunities for holiday volunteering? Look in your local paper and in your phone book for charitable organizations. Or contact your local United Way for charitable organizations in your area.

3. Worship

Religion and spirituality can be uplifting and satisfying for your soul. Thus, the holidays are the perfect time to rejoin or revisit your place of worship. Plus, you'll find that lots of other people are making the same choice this season!

If you have trouble meeting your fellow worshipers, take on a volunteer role. Become a greeter, volunteer on a holiday committee, or take on some other role that fits your personality and interests. Being in a role with a job to do makes it easier to strike up conversation with people -- and possibly find romance!

4. Participate at Work

Are there holiday events going on at your work? If so, participate! If not, lead a group of people in organizing some activities.

Create opportunities to socialize with as many of your co-workers as possible, then ask each of them to bring friends to the events.

5. Send Out a Holiday Letter

Mail a letter about your life to your friends and family, and maybe even to work clients. Tell them about significant events and milestones in your year -- and tell them you are single and looking! Describe your ideal mate and include your picture. Who knows what the postman will bring back?

6. Step Out of the Ordinary

Participate in activities that you either normally avoid or don't have time to do. And take time to research brand-new activities in which you can partake. Step out of your norm and you are likely to meet new and interesting people.

Some ideas for activities: speed dating, neighborhood gatherings, singles clubs, dances, group nature hikes, etc. Find these activities by looking in your local paper, surfing the Internet, and listening to your local radio stations. Also ask your friends if they know of any fun group events.

7. Be More Social

Try to attend at least three social occasions a week right now -- perhaps a party, a singles event, and a work event.

These activities should not just consist of you and your friends going out. Do things that will expose you to new people. If you can manage more then three social events a week, you will be even better off. The more social you are, the more people you will meet.

8. Be Happy

You want to shine and be attractive this holiday season. This can be somewhat achieved with stylish clothes, a good haircut, and jewelry and makeup for women.

However, it will be better achieved by being happy, which will make you shine from the inside out. Make yourself happy by working on your attitude on a daily basis. Focus on being grateful for the bounty of what you have, even if you feel that what you have is not enough.

9. Give and Be Generous

Give to friends and loved ones, but also give to strangers and charity. The more you give, the more joyous and in the holiday spirit you will feel.

The more joyous you feel, the more attractive you will be to others. People want to be with joyous, happy people.

10. Make a Significant Emotional Shift

Learn something extraordinary and profound about yourself, your relationships, or your life. Transform some part of yourself. Change something so radically that you will have no doubt about the change.

This will help you attract love now and will guarantee that your relationships will be better in the future. Knowing this, you will enjoy the holidays more.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
www.WhatItTakes.com

About The Author

© Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"

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