Deprecated: mysql_connect(): The mysql extension is deprecated and will be removed in the future: use mysqli or PDO instead in /home/a26f9f83/public_html/articles/includes/config.php on line 159
Setting Up Boundaries in Relationships > NetSparsh - Viral Content you Love & Share

Setting Up Boundaries in Relationships

Setting up personal boundaries is important in all types of relationships, but in intimate ones, it is all the more important. As with the closer the relationship will become it is easier for those lines to blur. You may ask yourself what is a boundary and why setting, or recognizing them do for me. Boundaries are personal limits we have with other people emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Often we already have these built-in, but sadly we often ignore them because we were taught to be nice to everyone, or that our desire to be in a relationship may outweigh how we behave.

There are at least three different categories of boundaries: physical, emotional, and spiritual. The easiest to understand is the physical boundary, as we experience this one literally on a daily basis. Think of this has if someone is standing too close to you, and how that makes you recoil inside slightly. If you were to apply this to a relationship or someone you may be dating it may take place in terms of a forced physical intimacy before you are ready. Often when these initially happen we get an uncomfortable feeling, it can be a shortness of breath, a sense of being violated, or something like a sinking feeling in your stomach. These are all signs our boundaries are working, and we need to pay attention to them.

Emotional boundaries can impact us in every day life as well. These typically take place in situations where we know the other person. This can be something like a co-worker making an emotional appeal for you to by trash bags for their child for fundraising. This can be our potential dating partner trying to force emotional intimacy through revealing too much about themselves, or asking us to do the same for them. A violation of an emotional boundary could be a potential mate trying to secure a commitment in a relationship before we are ready. Once again if we feel uncomfortable when these things happen, its time to pay attention, and ask ourselves what is making us feel this way.

Spiritual boundary violations can be very devastating. A very easy example of this may be when a child seeks approval from a parent for something they have done, and then that child is met with criticism. These violations tend to run deeper than an emotional one since they feel like an attack on us. This could be a partner making an overly harsh comment, or if someone is putting someone else down and making you feel uncomfortable. When these transgressions happen you should take note, other people should not make you feel bad, and attacks on the spirit can be difficult to get over.

When your boundaries are violated, you often have a negative reaction and my not know why. Learning about where your personal limits are is a wonderful way for you to set expectations in a relationship, and learn about yourself. There is no better time for you to do this than before a relationship starts, or in beginning of a relationship. Re-setting your boundaries in older relationships is possible, but it will come with a longer adjustment period. Take time to establish what your personal expectations are, so you are always comfortable in your relationships.

Editor for Copykat.com, Stephanie also writes a variety of other articles from her own personal experiences in life.

In The News:

This RSS feed URL is deprecated, please update. New URLs can be found in the footers at https://news.google.com/news

Psychology Today (blog)

Monogamy, Cheating, And Open Relationships
Psychology Today (blog)
Here, I re-visit an issue addressed many blogs ago regarding the prevalence and nature of nonmonogamous relationships. Information comes from the 2012 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (n = 2270) (Levine & colleagues, 2018). Of those ...


EW.com (blog)

Grey's Anatomy's best hookups (and relationships)
EW.com (blog)
Some say Grey's Anatomy is a medical drama that happens to feature a lot of romance, but it's our belief that it's a show about relationships that just happens to take place at a hospital. Need proof? Just look inside the elevators. Or the supply ...

and more »

Psychology Today (blog)

4 Reasons We Blind Ourselves to Our Bad Relationships
Psychology Today (blog)
In my years as a psychologist and advice columnist, I've seen an inordinate amount of people suffering in toxic or even abusive relationships. Often, as an outside observer, we can become incredulous as to why someone would stay in a situation that was ...


New York Post

Here's why relationships are making us fatter
New York Post
If you've gained weight in a committed relationship, you're not alone. Almost 80 percent of Americans put on “love weight” when they began dating their current partner, according to a new study conducted for Jenny Craig. Here's a look at some of the ...

and more »

Irish Times

How to repair frayed relationships
Irish Times
Our relationships with family, partners and friends provide the support, love, care and empathy we need. But when they aren't working, or have broken down, it's creates a stress that has massive implications for our emotional wellbeing. In this ...

and more »

New York Post

This man has broken up 4000 relationships and counting
New York Post
“All I'm asking is, have you ever been in a situation like that in a relationship where you felt trapped like you couldn't get out of it and it was just easier to stay in it?” It's the kind of question you expect to hear from a psychologist rather than ...
How one man has broken up 4000 relationships and caused 17 divorces - in just 10 daysMirror.co.uk
The man that has broken up 17 marriages and 4000 relationshipsCambridge News
Meet the comedian whose routine has broken up 4000 relationships in just 10 daysBirmingham Live
Mamamia -Plymouth Herald -Scottish Daily Record
all 10 news articles »

The Guardian

Elena Ferrante: 'Is there a formula for a lasting relationship?'
The Guardian
It's better to find out first, through circumspect questioning, if the relationship with Franco is still on, or if he has been replaced by a Gianni or a Giorgio, because even the most long-term relationships can end suddenly, and no one – today more ...


Baltimore Sun

Baltimore man told police that hatred of interracial relationships inspired fatal Times Square stabbing
Baltimore Sun
Timothy Caughman described himself on Twitter as a can and bottle recycler, an autograph collector, and a good businessman. The 66-year-old had a knack for spotting celebrities on the streets of New York, and managed to get stars like Oprah and Wyclef ...

and more »

Telegraph.co.uk

Why we need to end blame culture around toxic relationships
Telegraph.co.uk
Ariana ended her relationship of almost two years with the rapper and producer in May and was forced to open up about the toxic nature of the relationship only a short while later, after she received abuse online following Miller's arrest for drink ...
Pete Davidson on Instagram: “@nbcsnl back next week. fuck the internet tho...”Instagram

all 116 news articles »

Telegraph.co.uk

Police chiefs knew undercover officer was in relationship with activist, documents reveal
Telegraph.co.uk
In public statements up until recently, police have said they would never sanction such relationships, but legal documents show that they knew Kennedy was in a relationship with Kate Wilson. In the papers lodged with the Investigatory Powers Tribunal ...
Met bosses knew of relationship deception by spy Mark KennedyThe Guardian
Mark Kennedy: Met Police 'admit knowing about undercover officer's sexual relationship but let it continue'The Independent
Police 'aware' undercover officer was in relationshipBBC News
CNN International -Nottinghamshire Live
all 165 news articles »
Google News

7 Steps To Creating A Healthy Relationship

Everything in life, in order to be a success, requires... Read More

Can This Relationship Be Helped?

I have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often... Read More

Relationship Spring Cleaning by Susan Sheppard

History doesn't belong in a relationship that is presentMy friend,... Read More

Is Your Negative Thinking Scaring Off Your Soul Mates?

Francine Bonnecelli* swore off relationships the day her husband of... Read More

Great Relationship Advice: Declaration or Demonstration

Q: Could you help us settle a growing conflict in... Read More

How To Slay The Toxic Dragon In Your Life

How To "Slay The Dragon" In Your Life In Five... Read More

Love Advice: Let Fate Decide?

One of the most commonly asked questions, What is Love?... Read More

Dangerous Relationship?

I will in this article cover some of my own... Read More

Being Mindful of Your Mates Space

SOMETIMES I'LL ask a couple I'm seeing in therapy to... Read More

Relationships that Work: How to Get Along with People Who Drive You Crazy

Question: What % of your bad moods at work are... Read More

How Often do you Think About What you are Going to Say?

How often do you think about what you are going... Read More

Hey There, Whats Your Money Personality?

Guys who come up to women in bars and ask:... Read More

Victorias Secret Disclosed!

SHHHHHH, don't tell anybody, but, I know the secret.It all... Read More

I Said Yes, I Meant No, and Now I Want Out

Imagine this; you have the opportunity to go away for... Read More

Before Falling Truly and Madly in Love Ask Each Other 10 Pertinent Questions

Falling in love?aaahh what a wonderful experience the first flushes... Read More

A Man Drought In Australasia - Bugger! Age is Against Me

Men wanted desperately, it's official. The increasing surplus of high... Read More

Coping With A New Culture: Problems And Solutions

Coping with a new culture has never been the easiest... Read More

Self Truth and Your Relationships

Questions and AnswersHow can I learn how to be true... Read More

Never Ever Show Youre Jealous

O.k., you're standing there all alone at a party and... Read More

Swinging! Will My Spouse Be Interested?

How does one talk his/her spouse into living the Swinging... Read More

Do You Enable?

We all have behaviors, tendencies, patterns, and the keen ability... Read More

Great Relationships: How to Solve Problems and Have Fun Too

I recently came across this quote:"There is a time in... Read More

How do We Change our Self Esteem Perception?

Many of us have heard about the power of positive... Read More

Calling Forth a Soulmate

How do I draw a soulmate into my life? You... Read More

A Kernel of Truth about Relationships: 4 Steps to Improvement

It's all about relationships! proclaimed my father during our recent... Read More