Deprecated: mysql_connect(): The mysql extension is deprecated and will be removed in the future: use mysqli or PDO instead in /home/a26f9f83/public_html/articles/includes/config.php on line 159
How a Written Agreement Can Enhance Your Relationship > NetSparsh - Viral Content you Love & Share

How a Written Agreement Can Enhance Your Relationship

Marital contracts have an honorable history going back thousands of years, but they have not been put to good use for modern couples. Instead they have developed a bad reputation for being legalistic, money-grubbing things, negatively preoccupied with all that might go wrong in the future, and too often used to strip a woman marrying a wealthy man of her rights to property, support, and inheritance. But it doesn't have to be that way.

A new kind of relationship agreement, the Couples Contract is a different animal entirely--affirming and forward-looking--which can do constructive things for loving couples and add features to their relationship that can only help.

Positive, clear language. Unlike the traditional prenup with its terrible legalistic, sphincter-tightening language that lawyers tend to use, often as an awkward substitute for clear thinking and competent writing, the Couples Contract is written in loving and affirming language in simple terms everyone can understand.

Commitment. The Couples Contract affirms your intention to enter into a lasting relationship based upon mutual affection, respect and friendship. You can also commit to a high degree of openness, honesty and good faith in all dealings with one another.

The advantages of a Couples Contract can be had by any couple at any time. It doesn't matter if you are married, soon-to-be-married, or simply living together. If you are a committed couple, you can't afford to be without at least a basic Couples Contract. Here are some essential benefits:

  • Make a loving commitment to a lasting relationship
  • Introduce concepts that can help solve relationship problems if any arise
  • Make sure your relationship never ends up in court
  • Keep the terms of your relationship stable, no matter where you move

You don't have to, but if you want, you can add some optional clauses to your basic agreement that will take some thought and discussion, such as:

  • Tailor your financial relationships to make them more suitable to your family's needs, which for some couples will be a must.
  • Introduce faith-related principles into your family life.
You can start with a simpler basic agreement first, then tailor it later or never, or you can tailor your agreement at the outset. In either case, your agreement can be modified at any time.

Introduce constructive principles into your relationship

One of the most important features you can add to any relationship--a gift that you can give yourselves--is planning in advance, while everything is smooth and lovely, to deal with issues that might threaten your relationship in the future. If you want a lasting relationship, there are specific things you can do to increase your chances.

The Couples Contract can plant some seeds that will help you unravel predicaments that come up for most couples sooner or later. Most couples have no plan or idea for how to deal with such situations if they ever do occur, but you can create a Couples Contract that is there to remind you that there are things you can do and resources you can turn to if needed. Even though things may be wonderful and romantic now, just having these seeds in the back of your mind will help you in the future to recognize signs that your relationship needs some attention, and you'll have some ideas for how to respond if that happens. Look at this as a form of free health insurance.

I expand on these concepts in detail, show you how to create your own Couples Contract, and even provide a template and optional clauses, in my latest book, Legal Essentials for California Couples at www.nolocouples.com. You can use the Couples Contract template even if you don't live in California by making some minor changes.

Copyright 2005 Ed Sherman

Ed Sherman is a family law attorney, award-winning author, and founder of Nolo Press. He started the self-help law movement in 1971 when he published the first edition of How to Do Your Own Divorce, and founded the paralegal industry in 1973. In his latest book, featuring the Couples Contract, Ed applies what he has learned from years of experience to help couples protect and preserve their relationship. You can order his books from http://www.nolocouples.com or by calling (800) 464-5502.

In The News:

This RSS feed URL is deprecated, please update. New URLs can be found in the footers at https://news.google.com/news

Forbes

Being Mindful In Your Relationships
Forbes
My last article explored practical techniques to enhance communication between yourself and others. In this article, I want to build upon these skills by bringing mindfulness into relationships, whether at work, with friends, acquaintances or family ...


Lynchburg News and Advance

Building organic, healthy relationships in all neighborhoods, nonprofit connects people
Lynchburg News and Advance
Families create the heartbeat of a community and one local nonprofit is slowly and steadily hoping to strengthen both. Previously known as Lighthouse Kids Ministry, The Community Restoration Initiative changed its name in 2016 to better reflect its ...


The Daily Progress

Sheriff's office youth academy: building trust, relationships
The Daily Progress
During its weeklong youth academy, the Orange County Sheriff's Office teaches local teens about Virginia law and issues law enforcement officers deal with on a daily basis while also providing a fun and interactive day camp environment. Last week, 18 ...

and more »

GOV.UK

New relationships and health education in schools
GOV.UK
All schools will teach children about good physical and mental health, how to stay safe on and offline, and the importance of healthy relationships under bold new plans published today by Education Secretary Damian Hinds. Under the proposals, all ...
Schools to teach about same-sex relationships and gender identity under new sex and relationships education planPinkNews
Primary school pupils will learn about gay relationships, mental health and exercise under new government guidelinesDaily Mail
Campaigners criticise delay in updating sex education curriculumThe Guardian
Devdiscourse -The Times
all 20 news articles »

Lesson from an anthill: pay attention to foundational relationships
Baptist News Global
I thought about three kinds of relationships that provide a solid foundation for my life, and that I should never take for granted. Even if these relationships seem to be in good shape right now, I should not assume they cannot get better. I need to ...


Psychology Today (blog)

5 Pieces of Bad Relationship Advice Exposed
Psychology Today (blog)
In this post, I'll tackle bad relationship advice. There is no shortage of books, magazine articles, blogs, and talk shows telling people how to have better relationships. But there are certain common bits of advice that research suggests are not true ...


E! Online

Why Priyanka Chopra Is Changing Her Policy on Public Relationships
E! Online
The evidence is there. Should someone choose to Google Priyanka Chopra's history, it will turn up a list of (mostly actors) she has purportedly dated over the years. And the actress herself has copped to being in a relationship at some point, telling ...

and more »

YourTango

If You Do These 12 Things In A Relationship, You're Probably Depressed
YourTango
When it comes to relationships, depression can cause chaos, lead to breakups, and make people feel unworthy of love. According to Uzma Rehman, a psychologist from the University of Waterloo, people with a major depressive disorder feel less satisfied ...


Entrepreneur

How to Succeed as an Entrepreneur Without Sabotaging Your Personal Relationships
Entrepreneur
Businesses require as much time and effort as personal relationships, but most entrepreneurs focus more on their business rather than their personal lives. However, our entrepreneurial networks require the support of our personal networks to thrive ...


Omaha World-Herald

Ask Amy: I talked to my daughter about puberty, sex and relationships. Now her teacher is mad
Omaha World-Herald
Dear Amy: I am a physician and a widower. Most importantly, I'm the father of a brilliant and deeply inquisitive 12-year-old girl. I have raised my daughter (by myself) since she was 6 months old. We are very close. I noticed signs that she would soon ...

Google News

Unprofessional Conduct

Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 14,... Read More

Great Relationships: 4 Big Relationship Mistakes and How to Avoid Them

Relationship Mistake No. 1 - Partner BashingBashing the one you... Read More

Mental Abuse - The 7 Most Important Things To Know

1. Sticks and stones won't break my bones" ? and... Read More

Like Father

Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 5,... Read More

Picking Up The Pieces

"My feelings have changed," my boyfriend of five years told... Read More

How to Have an Affair - Beware!

People decide to have an affair for many reasons. They... Read More

Want To Strengthen Your Relationship

Open your mouth. What do I mean? Talk ? say... Read More

Relationship Tune Up - 7 Key Points to Avoid a Break Up or Break Down

"Every three months or 3,000 miles."That's how the sticker in... Read More

Passion Drought: Turning the Fizzle Back Into Sizzle In Your Relationship; Part 1

IntroductionMany gay men in both short and long-term relationships report... Read More

Relationships: Last a Lifetime

Stepping into a new position brought along a few surprises.... Read More

Valentines Day Gifts Can Expose a Cheating Husband

If you have the uneasy feeling that your husband is... Read More

Passion or Purpose?

I hate moderation. I hate doing things moderately. I hate... Read More

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places? - How to fine tune your relationship radar

I don't think a week goes by that I don't... Read More

The 4 Stages of a Relationship

1. The Perfect Phase is the first three months. If... Read More

Love or Lust

Do you know what the definition of love is? This... Read More

Typecasting, Candice Bergen and Family Relationships

I'm experiencing some challenges in my relationship with Candice Bergen.I... Read More

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

People who experience bad health often have major league forgiveness... Read More

Your Next Relationship - Heaven or Hell?

We've all had relationships that we've looked back on and... Read More

The Real Way for Men to WOW the Woman They Love

Guys, I know the struggle, you want to give her... Read More

Relationship Tips 101

In this article I'd like to share what the research... Read More

Save Your Relationships (5 Easy Steps To A Winning Relationship)

We all enter relationships hoping they will make us happy.... Read More

Nip Verbal Abuse in the Bud

So often in a new relationship we learn the dynamic... Read More

The Economics of True Love

In the real world, can there be romance without finance?... Read More

How to Get a Woman to Treat You the Way You Deserve

You know the scenario. You start dating a woman. After... Read More

Great Relationships: Checkbook Battles and How to Solve Them

"You can't hold on to a dime. Do you own... Read More