Deprecated: mysql_connect(): The mysql extension is deprecated and will be removed in the future: use mysqli or PDO instead in /home/a26f9f83/public_html/articles/includes/config.php on line 159
He Said, She Said > NetSparsh - Viral Content you Love & Share

He Said, She Said

The Relationship Triangle

Most people get involved in a relationship for the right reasons and leave a relationship for the wrong reasons. In fact, most of us have been guilty of it at one time or another and of being a complete spaz demanding we get our way in the relationship. Remember the movie He Said, She Said? A constant power struggle ensues when you make the relationship all about you. So why do we do it?

I believe the reason this happens is that we make unhealthy relationship choices. In our deepest inner desires, we naturally long for companionship and love in our lives. In our haste, we choose unwisely and compromise for that "next person" that comes along to satisfy that longing. In this context, it's easy to bend and flex because in the beginning we still don't know that person. Then as we do get to know them, we find ourselves making more compromises because we don't have the guts to fess up to our mistakes and all sorts of other irrational reasons rambling through our head to avoid hurting someone else. Bad move, fess up.

In our relationship goals, we need to be much more aware of ourselves, our habits, our desires, our likes and dislikes. The focus should not be on the person, the focus should be on the relationship. Even in the dating context - it could lead to something serious - we should focus on the relationship goals. What is it you want in a relationship? Who are you in a relationship? What do you need from the relationship? And, and, and... take stock and stay open to change, improvements, discovery and more.

When you can answer these questions more clearly and you find yourself able to understand what you can give to the relationship, you choose your partners more wisely. You also communicate more openly and honestly because it is less about you and more about the relationship. The other person can listen better because it is more about the relationship and less about them. And adjustments can be made so much more smoothly from both sides when we communicate on the relationship.

So look at it like a triangle. You on one side, your partner on the other. Instead of eyeballing and measuring each other, look to the peak - the Relationship. That's your goal, that's your partners goal, and you look only at yourself in comparison to the relationship goals. You're teammates, you see the goal, and now you can work more effectively together.

It's not about me, it's about the relationship. Can I give that to achieve this in the relationship? Do I want that? Yes, then let's do it.

Lee Down is a Professional Coach, Trainer/Facilitator, Speaker, & Writer of One Man Can Human Capital Development that focuses on relationships, the key foundation to success in business and life. With more than 15 years professional experience and a thirst for truth and understanding, he focuses on the human spirit and human capacity.

Working with clients, he facilitates the breaking down of beliefs, barriers or obstacles that bring clients forward on their journey of discovery with spirit, energy, abundance, passion and purpose, integrating the mind and body experience. Working with business, he brings visionary leadership and relationship skills to the forefront that witnesses an empowered culture evolve and develop directly impacting the improvement to the bottom-line.

In The News:

This RSS feed URL is deprecated, please update. New URLs can be found in the footers at https://news.google.com/news

Forbes

Being Mindful In Your Relationships
Forbes
My last article explored practical techniques to enhance communication between yourself and others. In this article, I want to build upon these skills by bringing mindfulness into relationships, whether at work, with friends, acquaintances or family ...


Lynchburg News and Advance

Building organic, healthy relationships in all neighborhoods, nonprofit connects people
Lynchburg News and Advance
Families create the heartbeat of a community and one local nonprofit is slowly and steadily hoping to strengthen both. Previously known as Lighthouse Kids Ministry, The Community Restoration Initiative changed its name in 2016 to better reflect its ...


The Daily Progress

Sheriff's office youth academy: building trust, relationships
The Daily Progress
During its weeklong youth academy, the Orange County Sheriff's Office teaches local teens about Virginia law and issues law enforcement officers deal with on a daily basis while also providing a fun and interactive day camp environment. Last week, 18 ...

and more »

GOV.UK

New relationships and health education in schools
GOV.UK
All schools will teach children about good physical and mental health, how to stay safe on and offline, and the importance of healthy relationships under bold new plans published today by Education Secretary Damian Hinds. Under the proposals, all ...
Schools to teach about same-sex relationships and gender identity under new sex and relationships education planPinkNews
Primary school pupils will learn about gay relationships, mental health and exercise under new government guidelinesDaily Mail
Campaigners criticise delay in updating sex education curriculumThe Guardian
Devdiscourse -The Times
all 20 news articles »

Lesson from an anthill: pay attention to foundational relationships
Baptist News Global
I thought about three kinds of relationships that provide a solid foundation for my life, and that I should never take for granted. Even if these relationships seem to be in good shape right now, I should not assume they cannot get better. I need to ...


Psychology Today (blog)

5 Pieces of Bad Relationship Advice Exposed
Psychology Today (blog)
In this post, I'll tackle bad relationship advice. There is no shortage of books, magazine articles, blogs, and talk shows telling people how to have better relationships. But there are certain common bits of advice that research suggests are not true ...


E! Online

Why Priyanka Chopra Is Changing Her Policy on Public Relationships
E! Online
The evidence is there. Should someone choose to Google Priyanka Chopra's history, it will turn up a list of (mostly actors) she has purportedly dated over the years. And the actress herself has copped to being in a relationship at some point, telling ...

and more »

YourTango

If You Do These 12 Things In A Relationship, You're Probably Depressed
YourTango
When it comes to relationships, depression can cause chaos, lead to breakups, and make people feel unworthy of love. According to Uzma Rehman, a psychologist from the University of Waterloo, people with a major depressive disorder feel less satisfied ...


Entrepreneur

How to Succeed as an Entrepreneur Without Sabotaging Your Personal Relationships
Entrepreneur
Businesses require as much time and effort as personal relationships, but most entrepreneurs focus more on their business rather than their personal lives. However, our entrepreneurial networks require the support of our personal networks to thrive ...


Omaha World-Herald

Ask Amy: I talked to my daughter about puberty, sex and relationships. Now her teacher is mad
Omaha World-Herald
Dear Amy: I am a physician and a widower. Most importantly, I'm the father of a brilliant and deeply inquisitive 12-year-old girl. I have raised my daughter (by myself) since she was 6 months old. We are very close. I noticed signs that she would soon ...

Google News

How To Support Friends and Loved Ones Through an Abusive Relationship

This is a question that comes up a lot. It's... Read More

Being Dumped, Just Plain Sucks!

Today I received a question from a guy. Here is... Read More

How to Find Relationship Advice

One thing to keep in mind when seeking relationship advice... Read More

True Love - Part 1

True Love! We all dream of being in love with... Read More

Dont Avoid Conflict and Confrontation with Your Spouse

"I just let him handle things his way." "We're not... Read More

Great Relationship Advice: The Ability to Resolve Conflict

Conflict in a relationship is both normal and painful. In... Read More

Calling Forth a Soulmate

How do I draw a soulmate into my life? You... Read More

How to Turn Down Invitations Gracefully

All of us occasionally receive social invitations that we don't... Read More

Communicate What You Feel: How to be Understood By Those You Love

Good communication is of fundamental importance in intimate relationships. The... Read More

Tips for Building Love Relationships - 1

Nearly everyone claims to want a great relationship with their... Read More

Are You Looking for Ms. Right or Mr. Not so Wrong?

Do you want to find the "love of your life?"It's... Read More

Improve Relationships With Style

Have you ever felt that relationships are messy? These messes,... Read More

Men and Relationships

Ever since the women's movement began, women have empowered themselves... Read More

Should I Leave This Relationship?

How do you know when it's time to say goodbye... Read More

Why He Left Me After...?

The next morning he /or she is gone. And because... Read More

Legal Agreement to Cohabitate Between Unmarried Persons

THIS AGREEMENT is made and entered into this Third day... Read More

It?s a Gut Feeling ? Finding love

Most single guys are settled in their life. Their mornings,... Read More

For Soul Mates: Will you grow or stagnate? Divine Source through Barbara Rose

Some soul mate couples refuse to grow. They refuse to... Read More

Coping with Your Difficulties in Yourself

Ashleigh Brillant once said""Coping with difficult people is always a... Read More

The Thoughts that Occupy the Minds of Most Men

Please note that this is not an attempt to give... Read More

Recognizing Unhealthy Relationships

One of the keys to obtaining a better life or... Read More

Great Relatinship Advice: The Ability to Create a Vision for Your Relationship

Many of us stumble into marriage and then continue to... Read More

Ulterior Motive

Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 7,... Read More

Yellow and Orange Flags in Relationships

It's been said that love is blind. It may also... Read More

Cutting the Cord

Sometimes, after a relationship has ended, many of us have... Read More