Soulmates, Are They Pre-ordained?

One day a telegram arrived at a man's door. When he opened it, he learned that his best friend had passed away...

I was at conference recently where I heard this most inspiring story.

The story was about a boy and a girl who grew up together as best friends. As they grew into adulthood, they became pre-occupied with their personal lives. Although, they knew that they lived just down the street from each other, they were too busy to seek out one another.

Every week they wanted to visit each other but thought to themselves, "Oh well, I am too busy today. We live close enough to each other to visit anytime. I will try tomorrow." It was not long before tomorrow turned into next week and then next month. Eventually a year had passed by.

Soon the distance between their homes began to appear more distant. The longer they waited to look for each other, the further the distance between their homes grew. This was followed by more excuses that did nothing but increase the gap between the two friends.

One day the male received a telegram informing him that his best friend passed away. As if he had gone into a shock, he asked himself, "What happened?"

He thought to himself, "If I knew I was going lose her without seeing her again, I would have taken the time to look for her. I wished I taken the time to tell her how much I loved her. Now she's gone, and I am now all alone."

Regardless what this individual thought or felt, his best friend had left the earth for good.

Do soulmates exist? And, are soulmates pre-ordained?

There is a biblical verse that goes something like this. "Before I formed thee I knew thee and ordain thee to be..." What the verse tells us is that before you were born, your creator knew you. He knew your need for a mate and ordained you and another person to be soulmates.

The problem is too many people do not invest themselves 100% in recognizing their soulmate. They hold out, settling for unhealthy relationships until it is far too late.

Before a mother brings a child into this world the mother will know the child's need. She will ready a room with all the things the soon to be newborn will need. Likewise the supreme power that put you here on earth knew you would need a soulmate. One has been prepared just for you.

You can say "I will find my soulmate tomorrow. I am too busy today."

But, if you do, take time to remember the story at the beginning of this article. It was procrastination that prevented the two friends from finding each other until death separated them forever. Your soulmate is not going to be waiting for you forever!

I know how it feels to be in relationship other than that of soulmates. You have probably been hurt or disappointed so often, you don't trust anymore. I know all about the pain associated with break-ups. All of the pain, frustration and loneliness you may feel can be avoided if only you will not turn to excuses and justifications, but instead make the effort to look for your soulmate.

Yes, soulmates do exist. Adam and Eve were the first soulmates recorded in human history. When Adam was created, his creator said, it is not good for man to be alone. Thus a helpmate was created for Adam.

What is a helpmate, and why would a person need a helpmate if the person were able to make it alone?

This leads me to believe that in order for a man or woman to feel complete, they will need each other as helpmates. Adam and Eve were created for each other. I am using the word 'for' to show that soulmates belong to each other and nobody else.

For instance, when Eve ate the forbidden fruit that could have separated them, they sought out each other and did what ever it took so they could be together. An effort to remain together is clearly demonstrated between the two.

Are you too busy to find your soulmate? Do you allow fear of effort or failure to discourage you? I do understand how you feel. I have clients who feel the same as you do. I have also gone through the same experiences you have.

Here is what I tell my clients. When treasure hunters hear of buried treasures, they don't make excuses. They don't let fear of the possibility of being bitten by a poisonous snake or their ship sinking prevent them from going after the treasure. They find the exact map that will lead them to the treasure site. When they get there, they dive or dig for the treasure. When they find the treasure, they do their part to ensure that any piece of gold bar they find is real gold.

It will be nice if our soulmates can fall on our laps without any effort on our part. Unfortunately, life does not work like that does it?

How does it feel to go from one lousy relationship to the other, because you don't want to invest the time or effort to find your own soulmate?

I know how it feels to think you are madly in love. Then, a year or two later you find that it was all a big mistake.

So where do you turn for help. Where do you get that map to help you find your soulmate? When you do meet the person, how can you be certain it is the right person?

First, forgive and forget about the past and start fresh from today.

Human beings are created with the need to be with the opposite sex. Not just any opposite sex, but a specific man or woman whom they will feel complete with. Soulmates are pre-ordained.

Meeting a man or woman is relatively easy. Recognizing the person who is intended to be your soulmate is another thing. In the book "How to Identify your Soulmate", I reveal important knowledge you must have to help you to recognize your soulmate.

Like a treasure hunting map, the e-book provides an effective soulmate map that any one can use. The ebook will help you to learn how to get a confirmation that someone is your ordained mate. Every effort is made to constantly include special updates in the ebook as they become available.

You can also learn how to handle the effect of break-ups. I have dedicated an entire ebook on my site to help people succeed.

Soulmate relationships have incredible soothing powers; they are heart warming and possess healing qualities.

The process of recognizing your mate is very real. You may be the only person keeping you from finding your special someone. Live today as if it is your last day. You will never know how successful you will be unless you try. My hope is that you don't allow procrastination, ego, pride, excuses and fear to prevent you from finding a rewarding relationship with your pre-ordained soulmate.

Resource Box

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------

Ernest Quansah is a Soulmate Relationship Expert who helps men and women find their true love and create the relationship of their dreams. He is the author of How to Identify Your Soulmate, a love relationship advice manual designed to help people find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships. If you will like more information about his services, please visit http://www.soulmateinfoserve.com . Copyright © 2005. All rights reserved.

In The News:

This RSS feed URL is deprecated, please update. New URLs can be found in the footers at https://news.google.com/news

Psychology Today (blog)

To Understand Your Relationships, Try Understanding Yourself
Psychology Today (blog)
Relationships involve a constant give-and-take between the desires of each partner for both self-expression and intimacy. According to a recent paper by University of California Davis psychologist Christopher Hopwood and Michigan State University's ...


Forbes

How To Overcome The Three Challenges Of Maintaining Professional Relationships
Forbes
With refined communication skills at the ready and a host of networking opportunities marked on your calendar, you're well on your way to building the strong relationships you need to succeed in your career. But simply making connections just isn't ...


Forbes

What To Do When Workplace Relationships Turn Toxic
Forbes
Almost every one of us has been stuck in a toxic team environment. Most of us feel a little helpless and panicky when a working relationship goes sour. Every day that you have to face a negative situation at work feels like torture. Even with the ...


Elite Daily

This Is What Texting Looks Like In Toxic Relationships, Experts Say
Elite Daily
If you've ever been in a truly toxic relationship, you know that the first sign is enough. While you may have ignored the red flags in the past — no judgment, been there myself — you realize that most toxic relationships manifest themselves in lots ...


Daily Mail

ASK ZELDA: Our relationships expert Zelda West-Meads answers your questions
Daily Mail
When my husband and I moved abroad he persuaded his mistress – who is 20 years younger than him – to quit her job in London and move close to us. I think she was surprised when she found out he was still living with me and our eight-year-old daughter ...


Forbes

5 Tips To Turn Your Online Connections Into Meaningful Relationships
Forbes
It's fine to have a large number of acquaintances, but unlikely to have meaningful relationships with all these people. That shouldn't be the goal either. You only have so much time, and the same applies to most people. So, curate the list of ...


Forbes

Be Brave: Why You Need To Risk Vulnerability To Build Great Relationships
Forbes
Each time I've had to start over from zero in building new relationships—socially and professionally (and they often intermix). That's a lot of coffees. It's also a lot of times I've walked into a room, every face in it a stranger, feeling quite ...


Forbes

A Milestone: All Of The Walking Dead's Relationships Are Now Interracial Or LGBT
Forbes
But I do find one aspect of the current state of The Walking Dead interesting. In this massive ensemble cast, every single relationship on the show is either interracial or LGBT, a departure from the source material, due to some major changes, and a ...
'Walking Dead' Sends Andrew Lincoln (and Rick Grimes) Off With Ratings GrowthTheWrap

all 91 news articles »

Forbes

3 Ways To Start Building Solid Relationships With Women At Work
Forbes
Imagine a world where you come to work and you have these kinds of relationships with the men and women you work with. You work alongside one another on projects that matter. Your perspective and your view of things is encouraged and listened to by ...


Bravo

Why Do People Stay in Miserable Relationships?
Bravo
“Previous research shows the amount of time, resources and emotion invested in a relationship can be factors in deciding to end a romantic relationship,” said the report. “Studies also show that a person may opt to remain in an unfulfilling ...

Google News

8 Keys to Lasting Love

My granddaughter, Merritt Miles, was the inspiration for this CD,... Read More

Relationship Advice: 9 More Must-Know Tips for Couples

The Law of Two QuestionsThere are two questions that couples... Read More

The Big Secret of Age

Think back to when you were a child. Pick a... Read More

Do You Love Reading The Daily Horoscopes Part II

How many time have you felt an instant attraction to... Read More

Is This The One?

Isn't that the million dollar question? How can I tell... Read More

Great Relationships: What to Do When You Have Drifted Apart

Picture, if you will, the following scene:A man and woman,... Read More

Soul Mates - Do They Really Exist?

Throughout centuries, story tellers, and people from different background and... Read More

Great Relationship Advice: The Ability to Create a Vision for Your Relationship

Many of us stumble into marriage and then continue to... Read More

Can You Become A Better Friend After Taking A Friendship Quiz?

Q. Does a friendship quiz really work?A. That depends upon... Read More

Relationships: Last a Lifetime

Stepping into a new position brought along a few surprises.... Read More

Relationship Advice: The Me Approach or the We Approach

A husband and wife were doing a little redecorating and... Read More

Learning to Trust Again

Eleven o'clock on a weeknight I found myself phoning a... Read More

Rekindling An Old Flame

Dr. Nancy Kalish, a psychology professor at California State University,... Read More

How Do We Know When A Relationship Has A Future?

In many instances, we all are "gun shy" after a... Read More

Relationship Red Flags Do Appear Early On

So often in the bloom of a new romance we... Read More

Very Old Secret To Melt The Heart Of Your Beloved

My Dear Lover,Communication is one of the key ingredients for... Read More

Five Telltale Signs That A Role Reversal Relationship Could Be Right For You

Powerful, accomplished women intimidate some men, but fascinate others. If... Read More

Walls Of Communication!

Matters of the heart are a true mystery to all... Read More

Relationship Advice for Women - Beyond the Happy Ending - Part 2 The Not-the-Same Syndrome

How often do we complain that our man isn't romantic... Read More

10 Things Never to Say to A Guy

1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him... Read More

Relationship Conflict - Blow Up or Blow Through

Every now and then I hear a "relationship expert" say... Read More

3 Stone Diamond Rings ? Three Times As Nice!

It is said that the stones in 3 stone diamond... Read More

Relationship Advice - 5 Sure Fire Ways to Mess Things Up

1) Stay committed to your "right to be right."Argue for... Read More

Why Some Women Are Desperate

I asked Dave how he was doing since it was... Read More

Parasitic Relationship

Something in my life is weighing heavily on my mind,... Read More