Relationship Failing? Consider Your Ways

When

We all need to consider our ways. So many times we operate in a state of being that is selfish and inconsiderate. We believe that we are unselfish and considerate, but are we really? Relationships are all about giving and sharing. If you cannot do that, then you need to work on yourself until you can. Otherwise, you will find it frustrating for you and whomever you are fighting with, yes, it will be a fight.

How

A new relationship with the opposite sex is not for the faint of heart. When we start a new relationship it should be a work of love. If you love what you do, would anyone have to ask you to do it? Or even pay you to do it? The goal is to build something that will last forever. For this to happen both people have to have pure love for it. However, if you don't have pure love, what you build is something short of pure, and love may not be in it at all. Sometimes people act selfishly.

In our lifetime, we go through many experiences, some good, some bad, some indifferent, however it is the choices we make before, during and after these experiences that define who we really are.

Single people may not have always been single and therefore they have experiences that caused them to make choices. If someone has always been single, they more than likely have had experiences that caused them to make choices to remain single. These choices are each individuals to make, but the consequences you do not get to choose and they often affect more than the individual who is making the decision. The point is that choices you make are often life changing and have long lasting consequences.

I talk with people, men and women, about what they thought about new relationships and this is what I have found: Most people are afraid of new relationships, because of what has happened to them in the past. When asked to consider their role in the past relationship and how it affected the relationship, most people have a hard time looking at themselves in an objective way. It is like they believed what ever they did was good enough for the relationship to be great, but upon further conversation it was obvious there was more they could have worked on with themselves. This is a major obstacle for most of us because we believe as long as we give something, then that is enough for a great relationship, this is so not true. You have to be willing to give your all and you should expect to receive all back.

I am reminded about the prophet Haggai in the Bible. He had to tell the people that they were taking too long to rebuild the temple. The reason they were taking too long to build the temple was because they were not giving their all. In addition to not giving their all, they were not pure in heart for the task. How could they build a Holy Temple, when they themselves were not Holy? In Haggai's prophecy to the people of Israel, God told Haggai to tell the people to consider their ways. If the people are able to consider what they do, then they have an opportunity to change. I use this as an example of how purity has its place in building relationships. This is not to say that you won't have impurity, however when you can consider your ways, you will be able to find your own impurity and do what is necessary to clean it up and get rid of it by changing your ways.

Why

A new relationship is all about cleaning out your impurities from the past relationships. Once you understand this, you can approach a new relationship with all you have to offer and expect all the other person has to offer in return.

The word "love" is used approximately 560 times through out the old and new testaments in the King James Bible. Each entry has a context and meaning specific to the situation that was present at the time. What we need to learn is the lesson of charity. This is written in I Corinthians Chapter 13 Versus 1 ? 8. With charity, we learn to give in the pureness of spirit and expect the best. If then we do not get the best back, then we can move on in the spirit of getting the best.

I have considered myself, and I truly believe that God has saved the best for last just for me. How about you? Have you considered yourself? If not, then now is a good time to consider yourself before you go into your next relationship.

Nevada York has based one of her characters: "Pastor Ethan", in her book Mahogany's Revelation on Ethan Berry, A.K.A. "Pastor Ethan." He resides in the Bay Area of California. http://nevadayork.com

In The News:

YouTube influencers rarely disclose marketing relationships: Study  Moneycontrol.comResearchers from Princeton University in the US focused on affiliate marketing, in which companies pay a commission to social media figures for driving sales.
Five Myths about Sponsor-Proxy Relationships  LawfareEditor's Note: Minor powers, rebel groups, and other organizations often act as proxies for more powerful states or groups, which use them to fight (or commit) ...
How Insecurity in Relationships Makes You Want More Things  Psychology TodayInsecurity in your close relationships can lead to surprising effects on materialistic. New research on attachment anxiety shows how you seek security in money ...
Center opens to help with relationships  Shine NewsBund setting for Interactive tasks and challenges designed to examine concerns of city residents ove.
Relationships: The aftermath of receiving ‘the worst breakup text ever’  NEWS.com.auA few weeks ago, I had an editor of mine asking for revenge dating stories.
Will Your Relationship Last? Science Says Couples Who Do This 1 Thing Regularly are More Likely to Stay Together  Inc.A happy relationship at home makes your professional life and work/life balance far easier and more stable. Make your partner your ally.
Heart Matters: Keep pursuing great relationships | Opinion  Suwannee DemocratNearly 12 years ago I began writing Heart Matters every week to cheer readers on in the work it takes to have healthy relationships. We have worked through a ...
Five proven ways to build powerful relationships %%sep%% Ladders  LaddersMany people are unsuccessful at building relationships because they're only in it for themselves. This is a narrow-minded.
ASK ZELDA: Our relationships expert Zelda West-Meads answers your questions  Daily MailI've never felt good enough for my mother-in-law and it's at the point where I suffer from panic attacks and depression after she visits.
What Is an Open Relationship? - How Open Relationships Work  Prevention.comOpen relationships are more common than you may think. Here, psychologists explain how they work, the benefits and downsides, and how to start the ...
Esther Perel nails exactly why relationships seem harder right now  Well+GoodIf keeping your love life even-keel seems especially difficult right now, psychotherapist and TED Talk star Esther Perel says it totally makes sense.
Relationship resolutions every couple should make  cosmopolitan.com (UK)These relationship resolutions are vital for a truly healthy partnership. A relationship counsellor from Relate explains how to make your relationship even better.
People continue to be in unhappy relationships to not hurt their partner  Economic TimesWASHINGTON D.C. [USA]: According to various researchers, many couples who are not in love anymore or no longer into each other choose to stay together ...
Sexist Men May Think They Have Less Power in Relationships  Psychology TodayA study finds that men with “hostile sexist” views perceive female romantic partners as having the upper hand—and may be more likely to act aggressively ...
Online dating to polyamory: the truth about relationships  BBC NewsIt's common belief that opposites attract, or that marriage makes people happier. But the truth behind these relationship stereotypes – and others – might surprise ...
Christmas is giving us the gift of retail relationships  City A.M.This year's flagship Christmas advert from John Lewis shows how the gift of a piano to Elton John as a child gave him a talent that he nurtured into.
9 Times Reaching A Plateau In Your Relationship Is A Problem  BustleRelationships go through phases, just like individuals do. But if you're going through a romantic relationship plateau, it can feel quite jarring. While not all ...
Strengthen Your Relationships by Changing This One Little Word  VerilyTry this trick to defuse tension in the holiday season.
How To Transform Your Relationships By Getting Creative  ForbesAre you a victim, a persecutor, or a rescuer? If you're human, chances are there will be different situations where you may view yourself (or be seen by others) as ...
Using pet names ‘strengthens’ romantic relationships, research suggests  The IndependentThe language of love is rich, personal, and wrought with nuance, that is, if you're discounting pet names. “Sweetie”, “muffin” and “baby” are just some of the trite ...
What decides if you should stay in or leave a relationship?  Times of IndiaKnowing whether to stay in or leave a romantic relationship is often an agonizing and worrying experience and that uncertainty can have negative ...
Why you stayed in that unhappy relationship for too long  CNNThe reason you stayed has less to do with you than with you than what you thought your partner needed.
Kevin Clifton caught at centre of Strictly Curse with TWO celebrity partners Louise Redknapp and Susanna Reid  The SunKevin Clifton may even claim a third victim as Stacey Dooley's boyfriend is said to be 'insanely jealous' over their partnership.
11 ways alcohol affects your sex life and relationships  INSIDERA drink can help you relax, bond with others, and reduce anxiety. But too much alcohol also has a negative impact on your relationships.
4 Women Anonymously Reveal What They're Anxious About In Their Relationship  Elite DailyRelationships aren't always the sunshine and butterflies they're made out to be. Even if you're with your soulmate and totally in love, relationships are still hard ...
Navigating tricky relationships during the holidays - Harvard Health Blog  Harvard HealthDo you have a challenging relationship with certain family or friends you see during the holidays? Here's how to navigate tricky situations and conversations ...
The value of the spaces between you, me and us  YourStoryYourStory CEO Shradha Sharma reflects on the value of space in every relationship and recognising individual merit after her meeting with Mrs Sudha Murty.
Hold on to your relationships: it's officially "breakup season"  Myjoyonline.comAt the time of writing this, it is December 12, which means the most popular day of the year to break up (December 11, apparently) has passed. But that does not ...
Why do we stay in bad relationships?  MetroLife is short – way too short to stay in a bad relationship which isn't making you happy. And yet so many of us find it impossible to make the break, even when we ...
I'm a Celeb's Anne Hegerty opens up about her relationship status - 'I find relationships a struggle'  Goss.ieI'm A Celebrity…Get Me Out Of Here! star, Anne Hegerty, has opened up about her relationship status, as she said: “I find relationships a struggle”.
Cherish relationships with financial planning  LivemintThe financial strains can lead to increased irritability, pressure, insecurity, and fear. If you don't play your cards right, relationships could pay the price. It could be ...
4 Reasons Why Appearance Matters in Relationships  PsychCentral.comNo one wants to be judged solely by the way they look, nor should they. Attractiveness is defined by many things that go beyond the superficial.
Do men try to restore power balance by being aggressive in relationships?  Economic TimesWELLINGTON: Heterosexual sexist men who think their female partners or wives want to control them are more likely to underestimate their power in romantic ...
Never change yourself to get a relationship - to what extent is this true?  Pulse NigeriaWhile the advice is not entirely useless, it surely needs to be qualified for it to make any sense, and for it to be applicable.
7 things that can keep you trapped in a relationship with a narcissist  INSIDERNarcissists are highly skilled at identifying who should be their next victim. Here's how to make sure it's no longer you.
Ariana Grande Teases New Song About ‘Failed Relationships’ After Pete Davidson Split  Us WeeklyAriana Grande teased her new song 'Imagine' via Instagram on December 11, about 'failed relationships' following her split from Pete Davidson — details.
Jada Pinkett Smith says her relationships with white men haven't worked because they have 'no idea what oppression is'  Business InsiderJada Pinkett Smith opened up about dating white men and the reason why those relationships didn't last. During the latest episode of her Facebook Watch ...
4 Zodiac Signs Who Love To Take Relationships Slowly, So Don't Try To Rush It  Elite DailyWhen I'm starting a new relationship, I like to proceed slowly at first while I take my sweet time considering if this is someone I want to commit to. Once I've made ...
Parent and grandparent relationships play an important role in encouraging altruistic acts – new research  The Conversation - UKThere are conflicting ideas about the role of the family in wider society. Some, particularly in the US, argue that family units are essential for a strong civil society, ...
How to save your struggling relationship  NEWS.com.auThe Christmas-holiday season is the chance to spend more time with your partner without distractions from work or kids' school/sport commitments, and a time to ...
To Understand Your Relationships, Try Understanding Yourself  Psychology TodayNew research shows how your own sensitivities and personality can influence the problems you experience in relationships.
University of Manitoba students union calling for ban of student-faculty relationships  Global NewsWATCH: Jakob Sanderson of the University of Manitoba Students' Union says they aren't calling for an all-out ban on relationships, just ones where there is an ...
University of Michigan expected to update policy to ban faculty-student relationships  Detroit Free PressANN ARBOR, Mich. — The University of Michigan's updated sexual misconduct policy is expected to include a ban on faculty members from having romantic or ...
Is It Better to Be Loyal or Honest in Your Relationships?  Psychology TodayAn old friend is in town on a trip that you've known about for months. Back when you made a date to get together for the evening, it seemed like a great idea.
The Conners Spoilers: The Big Ways Some Major Relationships Just Changed  Cinema BlendReporting on movies, television, video games, and pop culture CINEMABLEND is the go-to source for today's plugged-in generation.
Harvey Weinstein says rape accusers lied about the nature of their relationships to grand jury  Daily MailThe disgraced mogul will be looking to have the five remaining charges that have been filed against him dismissed, and in a new letter his lawyer is lashing out ...
Relationships don't work if salaries don't match  New York Post Before getting serious with a new partner, you may want to check their paystubs. According to new research, relationships are incompatible if there's a...
Fostering relationships with everyday heroes  Chatham Daily NewsKids had a chance to build relationships with emergency responders and get ready for Christmas during Saturday's 'Holiday with a Hero.'Formerly known as ...
Opinion | The code that recoded biz relationship in 2018  LivemintThe Insolvency and Bankruptcy Code put Indian companies on tenterhooks.
Mayor Ted Wheeler's Chief of Staff Disclosed a Relationship to a Woman Who Worked for Him in the Mayor's Office  Willamette WeekMayor Ted Wheeler has agreed to accommodate a "personal relationship" between his chief of staff, Michael Cox, and a woman who was previously supervised ...
How Social Media Usage Affects Doctor To Patient Relationships  ForbesSocial media has made a significant impact on every aspect of our lives. Healthcare is no exception. The increasing usage of social networks among both ...
An Intimate Relationship Changes You  The Good Men ProjectWhatever the popular love advice of the day says about “find someone who loves you as you are” … sure, that's a wise ideal to lean towards, but make no ...
Vicky Kaushal admits he's in a 'serious relationship'  The New Indian ExpressVicky, who made his 'Koffee with Karan' debut, confirmed on the show that he is dating someone special.
It's all about relationships, in the new world of work  The Globe and MailWhile automation is leaving no room for human interactions in the changing world of work, forging relationships is the new currency.
Same-sex relationships in breach of teaching contract, Red Deer Catholic teachers told  Calgary SunSome Red Deer Catholic regional teachers signed forms agreeing they were in breach of their job contracts if they were involved in same-sex relationships, ...
Bigg Boss 12 December 17 preview: Will Sreesanth and Dipika’s relationship turn sour?  Times NowWith just two more weeks to go, it will be interesting to see how relationships transform. Sreesanth and Dipika have bonded like siblings so far.
If You Want A Happy Relationship, These Are The Qualities To Look For  HuffPostAnd how to know early on if a person will make a good romantic partner.
Movie castings that ruined relationships  Nicki SwiftOne's work can really complicate a relationship, especially if they have a job with long hours that requires a lot of travel. For most celebrities, that's a given, and ...
6 New Relationships Which Are Currently Brewing In Bollywood  MissMaliniA lot of couples changed their relationship status from 'In a relationship' to 'Married' this year. There are many others in the pipeline already.
3 Simple Ways To Cement Customer Relationships  ForbesHere are three scalable ways to build relationships with your customers.
Sudbury children and seniors building intergenerational relationships  MetroWest Daily NewsThrough activities, children learn how to interview senior citizens to learn more about their personal stories; create a heraldic shield that expresses personal, ...
F1 news: Daniel Ricciardo expected worse relationship with Max Verstappen at Red Bull  Fox SportsDaniel Ricciardo has admitted he expected his relationship with now former-Red Bull teammate Max Verstappen to be a lot worse than it was.
The 1975: A Brief Inquiry Into Online Relationships review – melodic light relief abounds  The GuardianAs generational demarcators go, there are few more electrified than Auto-Tune. The vocal effect is layered over passages of this significant third album by the ...
How sexual fantasies affect your relationship  Big ThinkA new study called "What Fantasies Can Do to Your Relationship: The Effects of Sexual Fantasies on Couple Interactions" breaks down how different kinds of ...
A Tribute to Rituparno Ghosh, the Filmmaker Who Humanised Same-Sex Relationships  The WireThe city of Kolkata was Ghosh's muse as well as his battleground, where he sought to change conventional notions about gender.
People Didn’t Used to Ask for ‘Space’ in Their Relationships  The AtlanticThe expression caught on in the 1970s and is now so common as to be a cliché—but it's still as confusing as ever.
Calgary Catholic teachers must sign contract on values, implying no same-sex relationships  Calgary HeraldCalgary Catholic School District officials have confirmed that its teachers are required to sign documents that suggest same-sex or common-law relationships ...
Social relationships more important than hard evidence in partisan politics: Study explains how political groupings become extreme and divided  Science DailyA new study explains how partisan groupings evolve to become extreme, ultimately resulting in the formation of 'echo chambers' in which political beliefs go ...
These 10 Shocking Things Can Predict If Your Relationship Is Likely To End, According To Research  BustleFor the most part, many people go into relationships hoping it will last. But can you predict if it actually will or not? Researchers have been trying to answer that ...
Help Your Sons Navigate 'Mean Boy' Relationships  LifehackerWhen we think about the way our kids might face conflict with their peers, we may have a tendency to assume our sons' conflict is likely to be physical, whereas ...
How we can raise kids to have healthy relationships with food, themselves and all kinds of bodies  CBC.caI have never heard my kid say a bad word about how she looks or her body overall and, at seven years old, she still doesn't know what a diet is. That's saying ...
Relationships: ‘I got sent the worst breakup text of all time’  NEWS.com.auOur first encounter was like something out of a '90s rom-com about a woman holidaying in Portugal.
The top relationship fear for each Myers-Briggs personality type  Well+GoodCheck out your top relationship deal breaker according to your Myers-Briggs personality type. This way, you can address the isssue head-on.
Relationships help Arkansas land Myron Cunningham over OU  WholeHogSportsIt came down to Arkansas and Oklahoma for highly recruited junior college offensive lineman Myron Cunningham, but his comfort level with the Hogs led him to ...
Unlikely relationship melts social media  Grafton Daily ExaminerAn NBA icon and a cat litter scientist sounds like the opening line to a really bad joke - instead it's the unbelievable story of one of the most unlikely friendships ...
Assessing player-GM relationships in the wake of Kyle Lowry's comments about Masai Ujiri  CBS SportsOn Tuesday, Kyle Lowry had some interesting words regarding Raptors GM Masai Ujiri. When he was asked by ESPN's Rachel Nichols about his relationship ...
Donald Trump, CIA improve working relationship  Washington TimesPresident Trump has left the tumultuous days of publicly combating his own intelligence community for a more workmanlike relationship coached by his team of ...
Relationships Take Time And Energy  The FriskyIf I were to ask you to rate yourself on a scale from 1-10 with 10 being the highest, on how you show up to your relationship each day, what kind of score do you ...
2 Ways Your Relationship Will Change In 2019, Based On Your Zodiac Sign  BustleNow that 2018 is coming to an end, it's time to look forward to all the wonderful things the new year has in store. If you've been longing for change in the love ...
Meghan Markle and Serena Williams' Relationship: Why the Duchess Says the Tennis Star Is Her Closest Confidante  The Cheat SheetMeghan Markle has considered Serena Williams her best friends and confidantes for years. Take a closer look at their relationship, here.
Ellen Pompeo and Jada Pinkett Smith Tackle Biracial Relationships, Patrick Dempsey on 'Red Table Talk'  TooFabEllen Pompeo gives Jada Pinkett Smith an update on her post-"Grey's Anatomy" relationship with Patrick Dempsey on latest "Red Table Talk."
Parent-child bonding: 3 ways social media can help strengthen your relationship with your teen  Times NowNew Delhi: Just when you thought your child has grown up and you can be a little relaxed as a parent, they hit teenage which is an even more difficult phase ...
Sondra Locke: a charismatic performer defined by a toxic relationship with Clint Eastwood  The GuardianLocke was an excellent actor, and serious-minded director, but became trapped by her involvement with Eastwood and subsequent legal disputes.
Are Strictly’s Joe Sugg and Dianne Buswell in a relationship?  The SunJOE Sugg and his professional dancer partner Dianne have been rumoured to have a romance for a while now. But, are the Strictly stars really in a relationship?
16 Tweets About Dating & Relationships During The Holidays That Are So Relatable  Elite DailyOne of the best things about the holiday season is when you have someone to share it with. While I am single this year, some of my best holiday memories ...
Russian agent’s guilty plea intensifies spotlight on relationship with NRA  Washington PostThe guilty plea Thursday of a woman accused of infiltrating the National Rifle Association on behalf of the Russian government has thrust the powerful ...
5 Signs of Emotional Abuse in Your Relationship  PsychCentral.comAre you the victim of these 5 toxic behaviors? You might be in an emotionally abusive relationship and not even know it.
I’m in a relationship with another man but he identifies as straight  The GuardianWe kiss and cuddle, but he won't go beyond a certain point physically and says he loves me as a brother. Do we have any hope of a future?
What it's like to be in a 'throuple'  BBC NewsCathy and Thomas are married. They're also in a relationship with Nicole. They are in a three-way relationship, often referred to as a 'throuple'.
With guilty plea, suspected spy's relationship with ex-Milwaukee sheriff reenters spotlight  WISN MilwaukeeFormer Milwaukee County Sheriff David Clarke's relationship with a suspected Russian spy has re-entered the spotlight after she pleaded guilty to conspiracy in ...
Ruck relationships the priority for West Coast Eagles assistant Matt Rosa  The West AustralianNew West Coast assistant Matt Rosa says the chemistry between a rebuilt ruck brigade and West Coast's midfield will need to be fast tracked to have the engine ...
10 subtle signs your partner is no longer happy in your relationship  Business InsiderThe feeling of not knowing what your partner is thinking can be disheartening. Luckily, there are a few subtle signs an unhappy partner may exhibit.
7 Seemingly Alarming Things That Actually Mean Your Relationship Is Evolving  BustleYour relationship likely will change from how it was in the beginning. Although many of us would love to stay in the honeymoon period forever, change is ...
Kim Sharma makes relationship with Harshvardhan Rane official with loved-up picture  India TodayAs Harshvardhan Rane turns a year older, Kim Sharma had an adorable birthday wish for her "baby".
ARTICLE: John Tyndall - Our Changing Relationships with Mountains  UKC NewsMatthew Shipton. 10th December. This has been read 2,468 times. Do the mountains, and our relationships with them, remain stable through time? Author ...
Pellegrini proud of relationship with West Ham fans  West Ham United F.C.Manuel Pellegrini is enjoying his relationship with the Claret and Blue Army as his West Ham United team continue to climb the Premier League table.
Priyanka Chopra and Ariana Grande show the big trend in stars’ relationship is ... trending  Toronto StarOnce, seeking publicity and pay for your personal moments was disdained — at least, it was when Star Jones did it.
Five signs you are not ready to be in a relationship yet  The StandardMoving on can be a difficult process after a breakup. While some jump into new relationships quickly, others choose to deliberately remain single for a while so ...
Woman’s hilarious reaction when her boyfriend doesn’t text her back  9HoneyOne US woman found a hilarious and creative way to react when her boyfriend left her hanging. Read more.
Catholic U. fires professor for relationship with subordinate  Washington PostCatholic University fired a veteran professor this week for having sex with an employee he supervised in 2013. The university in Northeast Washington said it ...

How We Define Our Relationships?

We can fall into the habit of complaining about our... Read More

Travel to Find a Russian Bride

Do you agree that the best lessons are lessons given... Read More

Diamond Solitaire Rings - The Ultimate In Engagement Rings

There are no better rings to seal your engagement than... Read More

Quick Tips for Writing Love Letters

* Be in a good mood when writing a love... Read More

Preteen Relationships

Even preteens have relationships that are important to them. In... Read More

Great Relationships: 4 Big Relationship Mistakes and How to Avoid Them

Relationship Mistake No. 1 - Partner BashingBashing the one you... Read More

Great Relationship Advice: Dont Be a Darren Stevens

Q: I can't believe I'm asking this question, because I... Read More

Are Women Really Superior to Men?

While doing my search for this idea, I came across... Read More

American Women Really Don?t Like You

Any man who has dated Asian ladies who live in... Read More

10 Tips For A Happy Relationship

It's not working. Your relationship with your partner is not... Read More

Relationship Advice: Who Are You and What Have You Done with My Spouse?

"When we marry, we don't marry one person, we marry... Read More

Typecasting, Candice Bergen and Family Relationships

I'm experiencing some challenges in my relationship with Candice Bergen.I... Read More

Won Ton or Kreplach? How We Raise Children in Our Chinese-Jewish Family

I always knew my Oriental wife was Jewish; after all,... Read More

10 Reasons Why Married Couples Grow Apart (Part II)

This is a continuation of part one of this article... Read More

My Concept

From my own personal experiences with relationships I believe in... Read More

E-Love at Easter - Part Two

The next week was a whirl. The first quarter of... Read More

How To Open Up While Staying Safe

When you've had your heart broken in a relationship, it... Read More

Why Men Cheat

"Big, little or short or tall, Wish I could have... Read More

Honesty Accepted - Deception Denied

We've all done it at one time or another, or... Read More

Thinking Lingerie on Super Sunday?

February will bring with it one of the most important... Read More

How To Make Hooking Up With Your Ex More Thrilling Than It Ever Was Before!

Now I really have seen everything.The other day, I saw... Read More

Are You Relationship Ready?

So, you want to fall in love? You are certainly... Read More

Ten Tips to Play Together, and Stay Together: Lessons from the Teepee Turn-around

There is an old expression, which may sound trite, but... Read More

Jinxed Relationships -- Are Yours?

Do you consider yourself unlucky in love? Have your relationships... Read More

27 Characteristics of Loving Men

Every woman dreams of meeting that special man that knows... Read More