Relationship Advice: A Tip from Monica and Chandler of Friends

If you are looking for it, you can find relationship advice and wisdom in all kinds of places.

I found an important piece of relationship advice recently while watching a "Friends" rerun.

Monica and Chandler, now a married couple, are talking in their kitchen. Just in case you are not familiar with the show, Monica is a neat freak bordering on obsession. Chandler, feeling a wee bit amorous, sweeps everything off the kitchen table, and with a come hither look, motions for Monica to climb up on the table so they can make love.

Monica responds with this great line:

"Chandler! Making a mess to get me in the mood!?! C'mom, know your audience!"

Knowing your audience

I think that is great relationship advice, especially for long term relationships.

Once a couple has been together for a while, each person begins to develop a data base on the other. If they are paying attention. Sometimes that is a big if.

We so often act like we have no knowledge or experience of the other person, and then are stunned when things don't go well.

Part of sustaining a long term relationship it becoming an expert on at least one other person in the world beside yourself.

It's also a great definition of love.

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