The Five Second Flirt Technique

The first thing you want to do is to get into the line of sight of the man you are attracted to. When you catch his eye, you must give him the most inviting and receptive look you can manage, for three seconds? Count them. Eye contact, eye contact, and eye contact. No quick counts, no matter how nervous you get.

However, catching a man's eye for two or three seconds is quite normal. It's when you continue to look at him for the fourth and fifth second that you indicate you're interested. Okay. Now smile! Now you're being flirtatious. Now he knows that you're looking at him and are interested in him.

By now, because you are flirting with a person you don't want to be rejected by, you are probably in a panic. But here's the good part. Even though you are certain that he is observing your melt down, he isn't, because he is too busy with his own anxiety and fear of rejection. At that moment, his worst nightmare is that he will come over to you and say something stupid, and you will turn away.

So, if you live through this Five-Second Flirt Technique and you've managed to keep your mouth shut, more likely than not this man will walk over to you and start talking. He may say something right or stupid, suave or naïve, but in effect he'll open the channel of conversation and now you can begin to respond.

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